(Closed) Can you imagine my sister is upset with me for this?

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Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

i also have never heard of these/don’t know what they’re for. hopefully she will come to her senses and not waste time making something you don’t even want

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Your sister is being a little crazy and your mom is too! It’s YOUR wedding, they can’t just do as they please! Hold your ground and enlist the help of your other sisters who know how dated those look. 

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee

I GOT married in the 90’s and have never seen these before.  WTH?

What do people do with these?  Are they supposed to wear them around the wedding?  I am stunned that someone would think they are a good idea.

First – sit down with your mother alone and ask her why she feels it is fine to be so disrespectful to you and tell you they are doing it before you get there.  Does she do stuff like this all the time?

Next – who is paying for your wedding?  If it you and Fiance I would tell her that if that is how she feels about your wedding, you won’t be including her in any future planning.

Last – if they won’t back down, you have to make a value judgement here.  Just how much are you going to let those ribbons take over your day?  If they show up with them, ignore them and party on with your guests.  You can let a little ribbon make or break the day – your choice.  Personally, I hope the ribbons don’t show up at your wedding.  However, if it were me, I would give them a value of ZERO on the one to ten scale to show my mom and sister that they aren’t controlling my day.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@tiff-tiff-tiff:  Do we have the same sister? lol

My sister is the exact same way. She didn’t act that way about my wedding really (although she kept insisting that my wedding was a “Barney” wedding, because my colors were purple and green). But, she is like this with gifts constantly. She will be like “Hey, what do you want for Christmas, Kat?” and I’ll tell her something really easy, like a gift card to my favorite restaurant or I’ll say I don’t need anything. Then she’ll be like “Well, I want to get you a new planner & this awesome kitchen appliance to make homemade noodles” (even though I don’t cook & I do a shit job of writing in a planner). I would tell her that I think that’s a nice gesture, but that I doubt I would get much use out of those things. Then she throws a fit & is like “You are so ungrateful! You’ll get what I want to give you!”

So yeah, rant over, but I feel your pain.

And, for the record, I do not at all see the point in her getting you those ribbon things. Like, what function would they serve?

Post # 21
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1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am so sorry, those are heinous.

Post # 23
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10451 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

What are they for even? Stand your ground, they seem stupid. 

Post # 24
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2544 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

What the heck?

I’ve never even seen anything like this before. I’m personally *NOT* a fan and I think they look a little ugly if we’re being totally honest.

Post # 25
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634 posts
Busy bee

I say find a way to compromise. Ask if they can be made as magnets instead of pins, for a sweet little keepsake your guests can have forever to remember your special day.

Or to… You know. Politely throw in the trash at home, because what the fuck is that thing there is no way I am wearing that thing my outfit is CUTE.

Whatever they are, I think they’re a regional thing, like Texas and homecoming mums (there’s a weird tradition for you.) But it sounds like your mother and sister will insist on them regardless of your feelings, so I would just vote to mitigate the damage.

Post # 26
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1882 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@tiff-tiff-tiff:  those are awful. But if your sister wants to waste her time and money, she can go do that… and you can just ignore that it’s happening. I mean, most people will throw them out within the hour. 

Post # 29
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2597 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@tiff-tiff-tiff:  Never seen them, never heard of them, can’t imagine why anyone would want them.

Tell your sister and mother thanks, but no thanks.

i think your sister just wants to make them and bask in the credit. 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

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@Bracelet00:  Hey! Ease up there on Texas.  Homecoming mums are awesome!

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