I had a very similar situation with my cousin/ best friend. She did some pretty ugly things to me and my family too and when I confronted her, she didn´t wanna talk about it and just couldn´t (rather didn´t want to) see my point.
She was engaged at that time and I was going to be her maid of honor. Well, after long discussions and tears (mine) she wrote me (!) that her Fiance and her decided that I am no longer her Maid/Matron of Honor but they would be happy to see me at their wedding anyway.
To be clear, I did NEVER tell her that I don´t want to be her Maid/Matron of Honor anymore. I thought that it will be alright, as always.
That was like 2 months before her wedding and I was so hurt, that I decided not to go, although I really got an invitation (was very surprised to get it). My mom, sister and brother in law didn´t went too.
That was like two years ago, and we are still not talking to each other.
Now I am getting married,and my heart is screaming that I want to see her that day, but on the other hand i know that she does not intent to apologize EVER. Maybe she is sorry, but she is just not the person for apologies.
But I don´t regret that I wasn´t on my cousins wedding. It was the right thing to do, what was I supposed to do, going there and see her smiling into the camera with her new MOH?
I was trying to protect my heart from breaking any more than it already did.
You are right, an invitation is no apology.
In opposite to Your old friend, mine is not trying to get my attention in any way. And believe me, it really hurts. I know it may be annoying, but deep in my heart I would be happy that she at least does that.
ohh I´m not much of a help am I? 🙂
I would not go either. But maybe it´s your friends way of saying that she´s sorry? I don´t know what kind of person she is, but I think if you would meet her and look into her eyes you´ld know what to do. If or if she´s not worth it.
Longer post than yours, sorry about that..take care bees