- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
My Maid/Matron of Honor had her first baby a couple days ago, and I am SO happy for her!!! We live an 8 hour drive apart, and traveling with an infant can be difficult. My co-MOH is already planning a bridal shower in the town where I live.
New mom Maid/Matron of Honor offered to throw me a shower at her home (near where I attended high school so I think there are 14 women invited to the wedding who also live up there). Obviously no guests would be invited to both showers.
I think it is really sweet that she wants to throw me a shower, and it would be convenient for some guests who otherwise would not be able to attend a shower. The only person it will be inconvenient for is me because I will have to travel up there. I’m starting to get stressed out about finishing my DIY projects and running out of weekends, though that’s my fault! My other concern is timing- there is only one weekend she can host the shower. I just got a bridal shower invite for another friend who is having a shower that weekend on Sunday. I would rather attend a friend’s only shower than have a second one. I guess I could still go to both if my shower was on a Saturday- I would have to fly to make it there in time on Saturday, fly home saturday night and the drive to the shower on Sunday which is 2 hours from my home (with no traffic).
l didn’t say no when she first offered to throw it, but the more I think about it, the more I think it is a bad idea. I don’t want to seem ungrateful, and I know she wants to throw this shower bc she may be unable to travel to the other shower, but I really don’t want a second shower. Should I just suck it up because she’s doing something very nice for me? Or can I politely decline having her host a second shower?
Also, she literally gave birth a couple days ago so how long should I wait to talk to her about it? The other bridesmaids want the dates for the main shower and bachelorette party asap (my fsil wants to see of she can attend from out of state if possible) but I didn’t want to send them out while she was having the baby (I have a FB group for the BMs so I planned on posting them there). Is that something I can do before talking to her about the proposed second shower? I just know she’s really busy right now and don’t want to impose on this special time with her family. I have not spoken with her personally since the baby was born- she announced it on FB and I congratulated her there and sent flowers to the hospital- and that’s totally fine. I just take it as a hint she is not ready talk to friends right now.
Wow, sorry that ended up long!!!