(Closed) Can you sleep without your husband?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

The only way I can sleep is without my fiance. Seriously. We have separate beds. He is 6’2″ so he takes up quite a bit of room, and he is an active sleeper. I get punched when he rolls over. He also sits up and talks and stuff in his dreams, which once included throwing me out of bed to “save me” from the ceiling, which was apparently falling… my hero! Tongue out

So, yeah, we have separate beds next to each other in the same room. Only way I get any sleep, and even then, I sometimes kick him out for a night if I haven’t been sleeping well because the talking will wake me up.

I hope you get some sleep and feel better!

Post # 4
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Casa Real at Ruby Hill Winery

In a word: yes. I kind of have to. Whenever he deploys, I find it hard to fall asleep at first, but I return to my normal sleep schedule after a week or so. I just tend to go to bed later when he’s not around.

Post # 5
5262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have to from time to time as well. I don’t like it, and I don’t fall asleep quite as quickly, but it just makes me appreciate all the nights we do have together more. 

Post # 6
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

When my Fiance isn’t home I cannot sleep!  It’s the worst thing ever and I don’t know what to do about it.  I can go to bed without him when he’s in the apartment and sleep fine.  I guess when he’s not here I listen to the noises around me and let myself get freaked out.

Post # 7
826 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

No, I have a hard time sleeping when he’s out of town. The cats don’t make up for it, either.

Post # 8
2077 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have an extremely hard time sleeping when my Fiance isn’t home.  Normally, I have nightmares about 5 days out of the week, and when I wake up from them I’m terrified.  When he isn’t here, I’m scared to fall asleep.  I don’t know why I have bad dreams so often, but it’s something I’ve just come to expect.

When he isn’t here, I sleep off and on for a few hours, maybe totaling 4 hours of sleep.  Blah.  I’m lucky enough that he and I don’t spend too many nights apart.

Post # 9
2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I usually sleep better when my Fiance isn’t here.  He tends to move around a lot and steal the covers.  I like having the bed to myself every once in a while.

Post # 10
392 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i think if you get used to sleeping without him then its ok. Mine works nights, so we are apart 5 days a week!

Post # 11
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

How crazy is this–We’ve NEVER spent a night apart. We’ve been together just 7 months, but he has spent every night with me since the day we started dating. (Leave your judgements at the door…haha)

We’ve been engaged almost 6 months… And Im soo worried about the first night that we’ll have to be apart. There have been times when he doesnt get home until early in the morning because of work or other things.. and Im always wide awake till he comes in the door.

Who knows how it will be on down the line… I do not think we could ever resort to having two beds though!! 🙂


Post # 12
2195 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Hahaha, Amaryllis, that story cracked me…I’m sorry, it must be terrible, but I had to laugh at that.  One night something similar, but not nearly as awful, happened to me. Fiance was having a dream about fighting off some gang or something and punched me right in the face in his sleep.  Hard.  I was okay, but kind of shocked haha.  

I can usually sleep okay without Fiance.  We currently cram ourselves into a twin bed every night (dorm lifein’ it at the moment, sigh, but not for long), and that makes it hard to get comfortable.  Plus he is a really spastic mover when he sleeps and his sudden movements often wake me up.  Plus we inevitably get stuck in some uncomfortable positions throughout the night just because the bed is so small.  And what he does to the covers every night is just ridiculous (I NEVER wake up to find  the flat sheet on the bed, for example).  But still, I love to cuddle with him at night so much that it’s hard to fall asleep without him there (though I do sleep more soundly when he’s not there just because there’s more room).  And Fiance CANNOT sleep without me.  Sometimes he goes back to his own room to sleep if I’m up late working and then an hour and a half later I get this pathetic call from him telling me he can’t fall asleep and he’s wondering if he can come over and sleep with the light on, heh.  When we have a bigger bed in a few months, I am going to be so psyched.  I think I will sleep much more soundly then.

Post # 13
261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I sleep better without him there.  Maybe it’s because I was single for like 5 years before we met and I just got used to my sleeping ways.  When he’s not there I can take up the whole bed.  And the cat has plenty of room so he doesn’t end up on my face!

Post # 14
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m getting better at it since my husband has to travel for work a lot.  I used to go to bed early in the morning and slept most of the day since I was afraid to be asleep at night when he wasn’t here.

Post # 15
283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My sleep is 100% uneffectedby whether or not Fiance is around.  But I’m a girl who needs her shut-eye.  I can fall asleep on city transit and pretty much anywhere else you can name.

Post # 16
631 posts
Busy bee

We sleep in separate bedrooms and love it – we both sleep better!

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