(Closed) Can you talk about sex with a married man without it considered “cheating?”

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Is just talking about it with no intentions of it going further still cheating?

    HELL YES!!!

    Yes because it's still sex

    No because neither wants it to go further

    No way. It was just a fun conversation

  • Post # 227
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

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    @confused24: so there is another guy now too?? Hmm…

    Post # 228
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @lilmiss26: Kiss Me too! Bahahaha! And the hilarity ensues.

    Side Note: THANK YOU to confused24…for helping me to JUST now reach 500 posts.

    Post # 231
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

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    @confused24: It keeps happening because you are usuing sex as a tool to get attention and make friends. Guys like girls who are easy, guys like girls who prove their worth both through sexual acts and TALK about sex. I understand where you are coming from because I was that way before too. And guess what? After I stopped talking about sex, suddently I had REAL relationships with REAL friends who didn’t just want to “get to know” the sexual side of me.

    Perhaps you would benefit from some counseling so a professional who can show you how to see your own self worth. You are MORE than a sexual object to be used by men, and deserve to have real friends.

    Good luck!

    Post # 232
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @confused24: So what caused you to think of this man 2 months ago, when you posted the other thread? Sounds like you need to get away from ALL men in general and just get to know yourself. Seriously.

    Post # 233
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

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    @Mrs.tobe: Agreed…

     

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    @confused24: It’s not another guy per say. I almost slept with him a couple years ago when my Fiance and I split up but because he was dating my friend I told him no and stopped talking to him.

    So its ok to sleep with another guy when you and your Fiance breaking up, probably knowing yall would get back together?? I think that yall BOTH have some growing up to do… 

    Post # 235
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m so done. Laughing

    Post # 236
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Didn’t read all the post, so sorry if this has been asked..

     

    Inarpropriate or not, why would you want to know that stuff about your FI’s cousin and her husband?!

    Post # 237
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

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    @Mrs.tobe: Ditto! 🙂

    Post # 238
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Ok…I’ve been following this post off and on all damn day and have kept quiet – but here’s my input.

    1. The fact that you even think it’s appropriate to talk to any man other than your fiancee about such a private subject is sickening.  If I ever heard my husband tell another woman what he likes but I won’t do there would be some serious issues there! You are definitely breaking trust barriers.  The fact that you feel it’s okay shows your immaturity and your lack of understanding how strong of a commitment you’re entering in to.  And I’m sorry, but it’s people like you, or at least how you’re acting, that makes the divorce rate so damn high these days!  If you “love” your fiancee “with all your heart” how could you ever talk like this with someone else? There are more ways than just physically cheating – to me you are emotionally cheating on your husband.

    2. Guys will always be attracted to someone that is openly talking to them about sex.  Hello – a guys brain functions on like 3 levels – sports, sex, and video games.  His wife is probably very busy with the baby and you’re fulfilling what she’s not.  Now what are you going to do that he’s texting you like that? Are you going to tell your soon to be cousin what you’ve started?

    3.  Think long and hard before you walk down that aisle.  It doesn’t sound like you’re ready or that you understand what marriage is about! I’d be crushed if my husband did that to me, and I think your fiancee would be hurt as well if you were totally honest with him.  He may be open with his own family – but you’re open with just another man on the street with a wife at home taking care of the kid.  You are the type of girl that all married women fear!  The type that puts relationships at stake for their own entertainment.  Those aren’t the type of talks you have when you’re looking to have fun – talk about movies or something more appropriate! 

    if it’s not something you’d say in front of your SO then keep your mouth shut!

    Post # 239
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Its def not cheating! But def innapropriate unless SOs are there to join in on the conversation.

    Post # 240
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Deleted by poster for inappropriateness.  Ironic. 

    Post # 241
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    Busy Beekeeper

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    @Mewcakes: ok so i don’t flag people ever because i couldn’t be bothered and i am not flagging your comment, but i have a feeling someone will. that was a direct insult to the OP and really uncalled for in my opinion. i don’t agree with the texting one bit, but your comment was definitely not needed!  And i usually don’t comment on other bees comments that are harsh, but this was just b*tchy!  The OP, whether we agree with anything she does or doesn’t do, came here for advice. Not to be called a ho.

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