(Closed) Can you talk about sex with a married man without it considered “cheating?”

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Is just talking about it with no intentions of it going further still cheating?

    HELL YES!!!

    Yes because it's still sex

    No because neither wants it to go further

    No way. It was just a fun conversation

  • Post # 242
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    Bumble bee

    @confused24:No it’s not cheating but it is drama….family drama at that!

    Post # 243
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I guess it could be categorized as a “personal attack and snarkiness”.  But I’ve just seen so many girls like that before.  Girls who think it’s appropriate to talk about stuff like that and have zero idea why people think it’s inappropriate and have even less idea of why they get so much sexual attention.  And THEN have the gall to ask other people about it like “I don’t know what I’m doing wrong here”. 

    Some things I do not feel should be met with warmth.  But I will delete the comment. 

    Post # 244
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

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    @Mewcakes: I was done with this thread…but  I saw your comment and that was really uncalled for.

    Post # 245
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    Busy Beekeeper

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    @Mewcakes:  lol, i like the ironic you added on.

    Post # 246
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

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    @Mewcakes: I agree with PP, that was completely innapropriate and uncalled for.

    Post # 247
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I admit I’ve been stung before.  I have little tolerance for people who wonder why their actions are inappropriate after 7 pages of people telling them that their actions are not appropriate.  I never got in on the pot roast thing, so I found this post more infuriating than entertaining and I’m afraid I’ve done a poor job at masking my personal feelings. 

    My apologies towards the OP, but honestly, we’re on our 8th page now…do you see why it’s completely inappropriate yet? 

     

    Post # 248
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    Busy Beekeeper

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    @Mewcakes:  i agree the OPs actions are inappropiate and many bees have told her much quite bluntly, but without a personal attack.  anyway, i don’t think badly of you for your comment. you were gracious enough to delete it and i have certainly held myself back a few times on weddingbee from phrasing something the way i would really like to say it! so i think its normal to think/feel certain things…. i just hold back because i know no good will come of it and i will look like the bad guy in the end.  everyone has less than nice thoughts about other people in real life and on here. i think its just easy to forget that everyone is a real person.  like would you say that face to face to someone?  i know i never would.

    Post # 249
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    This post made my brain hurt. I agree with what many of the PPs have said. It is OBVIOUS that this is inappropriate, and I find it very hard to believe that the OP doesn’t know that. As some of the PPs mentioned, I think you know what you’re doing, and I think you like the idea of men thinking of you sexually. Whether or not you are attracted to them is irrelevant- you seek out this situation and participate in this behavior, despite the fact that it has caused problems in other relationships in the past- and then you truly don’t understand what the problem is?

    I’m not going to sling personal insults at you, but really-  insanity= doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

    Please find a professional who can help you understand why you’re deriving your self worth through sexting with other men and engaging in destructive behavior.

    Post # 250
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Ew, just ew. I would be FURIOUS if I was your cousin.

    Post # 251
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    While  I don’t think it is cheating I am going to have to agree with the others that this is very inappropraite and disrespectful. How would you feel if you knew your SO was having this conversation with someone else and telling her she was “smokin’ hot”?

    Post # 252
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I totally got duped. damn you trolls!

    Post # 253
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’d ask yourself if you would have had the same conversation if your Fiance was sitting there listening. That should let you determine if it was appropriate or not.

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