Post # 1
I am a Bridesmaid or Best Man for a friend’s wedding in September. Today she sent pics of the dress she wants us to get, and I’m nervous because I don’t see how I’m supposed to wear a bra with it (see open back below)! I’m a 32 Gargantuan and freeboobing is unrealistic if not dangerous .
I do realize that it’s her day, not mine, and I don’t want to raise a fuss if there is a simple solution to the bra issue. I would seriously wear a potato sack for her! Should I say something or just risk it with the dress?
Post # 2
lillc : oh Man! You can get stick on bras or special backless types of bras but if you have large boobs I doubt they will offer you the support you need.
I’d just tell her that as much as you love the dress, it won’t work with your boobs.
I seriously don’t understand that some people don’t get the concept that others have to wear a bra and pick ridiculous dresses that require some sort of voodoo corsetry to wear it! 😕
Post # 3
Ooh. Lovely dress but I really don’t see how you could wear any kind of supportive bra…
Post # 4
You’ve got to raise this with her or you’ll be miserable and I’m sure that’s the opposite of what your good friend wants. is there another style in the same colour?
Post # 5
Guessing she is small busted. My small busted friends don’t generally honk about the fact that going braless is not possible for those of us with big boobs… or don’t realize that there really aren’t options like backless stick-on bras for us.
I am a 36G and I feel you pain.
If you nicely point out that this dress won’t work for your boobs, she should understand.
Post # 6
Ok i totally get where u are at as i am about your size bust. If she is set on this dress could u see if she would be ok with u adding a strip across the back in the same drapping style to hide the back of a strapless bra or see if filling in some of the open back with a skin tone mesh to hide your bra but achieve the same look.
Post # 7
No, that dress won’t work with any bra. And your boobs won’t work with a stick on, lol!
I also have big boobs, and the couple of times I’ve been a bridesmaid I have been very clear and honest with the brides about what that means in terms of dresses I can/will and can’t/won’t wear. They were fine – one picked a dress (actually skirt and fitted top) that worked with everyone’s different body shapes and underwear needs; the other went for different dresses in the same fabric and colour, and both worked really well.
You just need to communicate with her x
Post # 8
I had this problem before. I genuinely don’t think ladies with more standard cup sizes realise how real the struggle is!
What’s the cut like on the front? Some people have sworn by the kim Kardashian duct tape bra, or there’s sticker things that seem to have good reviews on Amazon from bigger cupped women, but sit high on the breast. Stick on bras are just impossible though, I usually find you then have a free-roaming bra to contend with!
I like the idea of getting some excess fabric to cover up a bra strap at the back. Nobody would notice that, but they’ll notice a big bra strap. Or a converter to bring it to a low back, and some fabric covering the lower bit some more?
Post # 9
Lol. You for sure need to bring this up. I mean, at least you can wear a bra with a potato sack…
Post # 10
I feel your pain! All of my girlfriends from high school and college were small busted, while I am not. I agree with PPs that those who have a smaller bust don’t understand the struggles that the rest of us must contend with when it comes to bras, straps, and support.
Really, a strapless bra doesn’t provide much support, and definitely not much lift, for me. In this dress, even with a strapless with a low back, I don’t think it would work. The back on this is not only open, but very low.
Post # 11
There is no bra for a large busted woman that will work with that dress.
Most of the support for the breasts comes from the band of the bra, some from the straps. That dress will hide neither band nor straps.
Post # 12
lillc : you could have your seasmstress add a band of fabric across the back so that you can wear a bra
Post # 13
What does the front of the dress look like? I’m a 32F and I would probably be fine going braless if the front fabric was loose and drapey.
Post # 14
Can you get cups put into the front of the dress? it’s not the BEST option but those plus a backless bra may work
Post # 15
Hell nah. I’d tell her as long as she was ok with my bra showing through that then sure…I can wear it. Going braless is a big no for me.