(Closed) Can you wear black to weddings?

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 3
1936 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

 I think almost any colour is acceptable if you work with it. I went to a wedding a few years ago in which my friend (I was her date) wore black. But she also had a lot of tattoos, wore her hair in this crazy pink shade, had really thick, chunky statement jewelry, etc. That’s who she is, but the MOB actually asked her to go put on pants (she had thigh tats)… We were at a very formal and classy venue and she just looked so out of place. She spent the time between the ceremony and the cocktail hour crying. All I could think was be you, but respect the affair you’re at as well.

So, a LBD or a flowy black dress is completely acceptble, but maybe wear your hair very formally or something?

Post # 4
5950 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

lulu_bell :  Why not? My first Mother-In-Law did! >.< Actually when she did it I DID wonder if it was a statement on her part LOL! But yes, I think it’s fine.

Post # 5
9290 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

never heard of not being able to wear black.  they don’t call it the LBD for nothing.

Post # 6
2627 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

lulu_bell :  That’s a really pretty dress! 

I wouldn’t think that it’d be a problem, especially for a Winter wedding 🙂

You could always dress it up with some more colourful accessories anyway 🙂


Post # 7
551 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

A coloured shawl and jewellery all of one kind with it, and some coloured shoes could make it wedding appropriate. It is flowy and pretty, but it depends how you style it, as well as the length it comes to on you.

Generally the assumption is that if you aren’t sure then perhaps you shouldn’t.
It honestly depends on the couple getting married but traditionalists in the room will equal black with disapproval of the marriage, so I’d make sure you add some colour.

Post # 8
4037 posts
Honey bee

I saw a large group photo on F/B, of ladies at a wedding last weekend. It was formal and in the evening. Almost all the ladies wore black: one wore navy and wore wore a multi-colored black/gray beaded cocktail dress.

The only time I wouldn’t wear black would be to a summer, afternoon wedding, which doesn’t happen too often. 95% of the weddings I’m invited to are formal, in the evening, and cocktail/formal attire is worn.

Post # 9
2628 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I think it is totally acceptable- especially for a winter wedding, like PP said.  I wouldn’t think twice about it.  It’s a cute dress- and like you said, doesn’t remind me of a funeral at all.

Post # 10
6435 posts
Bee Keeper

 lulu_bell :  I like it, but maybe if you’re worried dress it up with something bright.

Post # 13
26 posts
  • Wedding: June 2017

I wear black everywhere I go lol. I think its totally fine!

Post # 14
8526 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

lulu_bell :  the reason some people skip black is because, traditionally, it signified that the wearer disapproved of the marriage. VERY few people still think this way so as long as the rest of the outfit is festive and appropriate I say go for it! I did ask my Mother-In-Law not to wear black at my wedding because my family is one of those few that would think she wore it as a silent protest and I told her so – she had no idea and was glad she didn’t unintentionally make that statement (particularly because we’re an interfaith marriage and it was known that it had already taken her a bit of time to get used to the fact that her son wasn’t marrying a Jewish girl). 

Post # 15
485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969 - City, State

lulu_bell :  Usually depends on the culture of the bride and groom and how traditional they are. It is common for guests to attend weddings wearing black in Germany, especially during the coolor months. In Singapore it may be a little harder to get away with this color as it traditionally symbolises mourning. 

Anyway, black dress with with a splash of color will definitely look a little more festive. I like black though. Such a classic! 

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