(Closed) Can you write your own vows in a courthouse wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
124 posts
Blushing bee

I would imagine they would say no. The officiants are volunteers, privately hired, or whomever is available at the courthouse. At least that’s what it’s like at our courthouse.

We’re hiring our own officiant, so we will be writing our own wedding script. 

I don’t know if that’s an available option for you, but I would check into it. 

Post # 3
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

Our judge had set vows to read, but then stepped back at one point and asked if we had “anything to say to each other or add.” That would be a reasonable time to give your own custom vows, I think. (Neither of us had written anything out in advance, we just spoke from the heart, but it worked out.)

Post # 4
6123 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it depends on who you are hiring to officiat the wedding.  My ex and I used the County Clerk lady who just stood up from her desk to officiate.  I don’t think there was much modification in that situation because it was very quick. 

However, if you hired a Justice of the Peace and actually emailed them prior, then sure why not work on a script.  The county should have a list of JOPs, or you can find ay officiate that will marry you at the courthouse if you wish.

At one point we had a Judge that was going to marry us (at an outside location, not the courthouse however), and he emailed me a very lengthy write up of sample vows based on the Q&A he emailed us so he could tailor it to us.


Just depends on the officiant and what conversation you have.

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