(Closed) Can your diamond be.. well…. too big?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: My diamond is too big...
    It can never be too big... you'll get used to it... : (37 votes)
    29 %
    Stop whining and enjoy the ring : (56 votes)
    44 %
    Change the diamond for a smaller one : (26 votes)
    20 %
    Cheese & Rice : (9 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Diamond sizes are subjective. What’s big to you is small to others, and what’s small to you is big to others.

    I’d say talk to your Fiance. I’m taking it he didn’t know about your preferences? If he didn’t, he probably just went with what he liked and/or what he thought you’d like. If you aren’t happy with it, then I would tell him and explain why and what you would prefer. I can’t imagine that he’d be upset. I’m sure he wants you to be happy and proud of what you’re wearing.

    Post # 4
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    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    ….how big is it? And how much smaller did you want? People generally don’t notice a size difference of less than .25ct

    Post # 5
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    1266 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I would say it can never be too big…but that’s just me!

    See if you get used to it, a lot of times people describe “shrinkage”, meaning once they’ve worn their ring for awhile the stone seems smaller/the owner wishes it was bigger.

    If you still think it’s too big or if the size is making you uncomfortable after a month or so, I would then start talking to your Fiance about looking into smaller stones.

    Any pics of the ring?

    Post # 6
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    If you’re really uncomfortable with it, I would talk to your Fiance. If he’s on board, get the stone you’d prefer. I don’t see any reason to suck it up & settle for a stone you don’t love- be it too small or too big for your preference.

    Post # 7
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    3063 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    You will get used to it. My ring was previously a solitiare and I recently had it changed to a three stone. At first I felt it was “too much” but now I love the look! Don’t worry about what people will think. People are going to judge you no matter what. 

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @AngelBee3:  If you get a tape measurer/ruler and measure it in mm you can probably get a good idea of how big it is. 12mm is huge, and would be like 6 or 7cts in a round diamond. I suspect it is not actually that big.

    ETA: If its more like 1/4″ then it is a lot closer to 1ct.

    Post # 10
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    716 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Take a picture…

    That being said, to me, no… a diamond can’t be too big. The only thing you risk is people thinking it’s fake

    Post # 11
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    4714 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1998

    Ok you really need to take a pic of this ring girl…1/2 inch??? wow

    Post # 12
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    2118 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I definitely think that a diamond can be too big. But is yours too big? Idk… need to see a pic 🙂

    Post # 14
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    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Hi!  Mine is a carat and my fingers are even smaller than yours, and I definitely thought it was too big when I got it, for the same reasons as you.  I didn’t want to look too blingy or like I was showing off.  I imagine if yours measures 1/4 inch, it’s probably around a carat too.  Honestly, now that I’ve had it for a while and become more conscious of other people’s rings, it’s really not big or attention grabbing at all.  Start looking at other people’s hands, and see if you still feel like yours stands out.

    Post # 15
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i suppose it boils down to what you feel comfortable wearing forever more Vs. any sentimental attachment you may have to it/how you would feel telling your Fi you don’t particularly like it….?

    if you really don’t feel it’s very ‘you’ then i would be inclined to explain this to your Fi & ask if you could both go looking for something else?

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Everyone has a preference for diamond size. I tend to like smaller stones (under 1ct) for myself. I have very small fingers (size 4) and think anything larger looks ridiculous on me. But I’ve seen other women with larger stones that I think are beautiful. But if you do continue to wear it, you will probably get used to the size of it on your hand. Do whatever will make you happy 🙂

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