Post # 1
Is there such a thing?
My soon to be husband surprised me with a ring and I love it. It’s a perfect simple solitaire which I wanted but there’s just one problem… the center diamond is too big. Well for my taste that is. I genuinely prefer to wear smaller diamonds. I don’t want people looking at my ring and thinking “oh she’s materialistic and needed a big rock” or “they’re trying to show off”. I prefer a more modest ring that symbolizes our love for eachother and for it not to be about the “bling” so much. I do love larger diamonds on others and I don’t think these things when I see a lady wearing a larger diamond (or stone) so I don’t know why I feel like I am going to be judged this way. I don’t have a picture now or know how large the stone is exactly it just feels too big and showy. For reference I have a small size 5 finger.
Am I analyzing this too much? Should I just grow used to it? It’s not about the money because he said he got a crazy good deal. What should I do?
Post # 3
Diamond sizes are subjective. What’s big to you is small to others, and what’s small to you is big to others.
I’d say talk to your Fiance. I’m taking it he didn’t know about your preferences? If he didn’t, he probably just went with what he liked and/or what he thought you’d like. If you aren’t happy with it, then I would tell him and explain why and what you would prefer. I can’t imagine that he’d be upset. I’m sure he wants you to be happy and proud of what you’re wearing.
Post # 4
….how big is it? And how much smaller did you want? People generally don’t notice a size difference of less than .25ct
Post # 5
I would say it can never be too big…but that’s just me!
See if you get used to it, a lot of times people describe “shrinkage”, meaning once they’ve worn their ring for awhile the stone seems smaller/the owner wishes it was bigger.
If you still think it’s too big or if the size is making you uncomfortable after a month or so, I would then start talking to your Fiance about looking into smaller stones.
Any pics of the ring?
Post # 6
If you’re really uncomfortable with it, I would talk to your Fiance. If he’s on board, get the stone you’d prefer. I don’t see any reason to suck it up & settle for a stone you don’t love- be it too small or too big for your preference.
Post # 7
You will get used to it. My ring was previously a solitiare and I recently had it changed to a three stone. At first I felt it was “too much” but now I love the look! Don’t worry about what people will think. People are going to judge you no matter what.
Post # 8
@asscherlover: I’m not really sure honetly… It’s about a half an inch big… I would probably want half that size.
@starla: I don’t have any pictures yet but I have heard of “shrinkage” so I might just give it more time and see what happens.
Post # 9
@AngelBee3: If you get a tape measurer/ruler and measure it in mm you can probably get a good idea of how big it is. 12mm is huge, and would be like 6 or 7cts in a round diamond. I suspect it is not actually that big.
ETA: If its more like 1/4″ then it is a lot closer to 1ct.
Post # 10
Take a picture…
That being said, to me, no… a diamond can’t be too big. The only thing you risk is people thinking it’s fake
Post # 11
Ok you really need to take a pic of this ring girl…1/2 inch??? wow
Post # 12
I definitely think that a diamond can be too big. But is yours too big? Idk… need to see a pic 🙂
Post # 13
@asscherlover: OOOps I measured wrong… It was a little over 1/4 of an inch.. so who knows you might be right.
@google: & @GelaMac: I can’t take any because it’s at the jewelers.. they had to get a new setting because the one we got was defective. I should have it by next week (hopefully!) and I meant 1/4 not 1/2 and inch. OOps
Post # 14
Hi! Mine is a carat and my fingers are even smaller than yours, and I definitely thought it was too big when I got it, for the same reasons as you. I didn’t want to look too blingy or like I was showing off. I imagine if yours measures 1/4 inch, it’s probably around a carat too. Honestly, now that I’ve had it for a while and become more conscious of other people’s rings, it’s really not big or attention grabbing at all. Start looking at other people’s hands, and see if you still feel like yours stands out.
Post # 15
i suppose it boils down to what you feel comfortable wearing forever more Vs. any sentimental attachment you may have to it/how you would feel telling your Fi you don’t particularly like it….?
if you really don’t feel it’s very ‘you’ then i would be inclined to explain this to your Fi & ask if you could both go looking for something else?
Post # 16
Everyone has a preference for diamond size. I tend to like smaller stones (under 1ct) for myself. I have very small fingers (size 4) and think anything larger looks ridiculous on me. But I’ve seen other women with larger stones that I think are beautiful. But if you do continue to wear it, you will probably get used to the size of it on your hand. Do whatever will make you happy 🙂