Post # 1
Very generally speaking, in Canada we get up to a year of maternity leave (exceptions of course).
I’m just curious if any bees split some of that time with their Darling Husband and went back to work early so that he would have some time off with the baby?
Post # 4
@Pink Asawa: hello, I’m from Canada. 🙂 me and Darling Husband talked about this, if we made the same amoint of $ we would split it. But since he makes x 3 as much as I do it makes no sense. Hopefully someone has some personal xperience stories for you 🙂
Post # 5
@Pink Asawa: I will be taking the full year. However, my close friend split the time with her husband (she was quite resentful about it though – she wanted to be the one home for the first year).
ETA: Just saw the above post and realized I should have explained properly. Fiance and I make about the same so it doesn’t really matter who is home and I’m the one who really wants to be. In my friend’s case, she makes a lot more money so it was a necessity for her to go back (though she didn’t see it that way – emotional trumps financial for her).
Post # 6
Doesn’t make sense for us as Darling Husband makes more than double what I do. Plus he has no interest in staying home and running the house 🙂
Post # 7
I make more than my Darling Husband but I’m still taking the whole year. He breifly mentionned taking some of it before we were pregnant but ultimately decided he would just work and let me take it since he works so close to home and his work isn’t overly stressful where as I commute far to work and it’s draining. Plus he wasn’t super interested in being a stay at home daddy, even for just a little while.
Post # 8
I’m taking the whole year. We make about the same, so it doesn’t really matter which one of us is off from that perspective. I had more interest in staying home, plus I’m planning to breastfeed for at least a year and would prefer not to pump if possible. Also, my workplace is definitely more family-friendly, so being off for an extended period of time won’t set me back nearly as far career-wise as it would for Darling Husband.
Post # 10
I’ll be taking the full year off. My Darling Husband loves his job and so it’s not really a chore for him to go to work and I’d much rather be at home with our baby.
My company has a really good maternity/paternity leave package so a number of my male coworkers have taken paternity leaves since it makes sense financially. I know they’ve all really enjoyed having the time off and said it gave them a really appreciation for how challenging it to be 24/7 with your child.
A story I’ll never forget – one coworker said the first day it was a sunny day so he went for a walk to get a coffee then strolled by the park and read the newspaper with the baby then went home and watched tv and just couldn’t get over how great it was being home and what an easy life it was. Then by about 3-4 days of no adult interaction and a crying baby that couldn’t communicate what was wrong he said he had totally changed his mind about how tough it was being home!
Post # 11
I know of a few people who split time with their spouse. A co-worker found out she was pregnant with her second child a few months after returning to work from her first. She split the time on the second mat leave with her husband mostly because she didn’t want to have a second year off work so close to the first. A friend did it on both her pregnancies because as a doctor she wasn’t entitled to a year – only a couple months. Her husband took the remainder of the year off. Finally my cousin split adoption leave with her partner when they adopted two boys. He was entitled to a full year whereas she wasn’t. She took the time she could take and he took the remainder of the year.
Post # 12
I talked to Darling Husband about this but he doesn’t want to be home. He makes more than I do, and his field is pretty male-dominated, so even if pay was the same, he feels a lot of social pressure not to take parental leave.
Post # 13
Well I qualify for Ei maternity but won’t have a job to go back too. I plan to take it but halfway through my Darling Husband will use a few weeks ( for we can go on vkay! Lol ) and then I will take the rest. I think this should work fine because the website says you can go on and if you end early and decide you want to take the remainder then you can
Post # 14
We make about the same and work in the same male dominated field, but there’s def more pressure on Darling Husband to not take parental leave. I am planning on BFing for a year, so I would prefer to take the parental leave. We have discussed Darling Husband taking the leave when he was unhappy at his last job, but he’s really happy in his new job so he won’t! I do know a couple of people who have split leave, but usually for practical reasons rather than a shared parenting concept. To be perfectly honest, I would prefer not to because I see myself more in a caregiving role than my Darling Husband.
Post # 15
My husband is self-employed so we’ll be ‘off’ at the same time and with the baby and he’ll stay as a Stay-At-Home Dad while I’m back at work. If he was working full time then we would’ve definetly considered sharing the parental leave though.
Post # 16
Curious to see what other people are doing as we’re still deciding.
Darling Husband makes more than I do, but his employer tops up their parental leave to 93% of his salary, while I would only have what the government pays me (which is 60% of up to $48,0000/annum while I make significantly more than that). However, DH’s job has a lot of opportunity for overtime and he usually works quite a bit of it so it might work out about even no matter who takes the time.