@mrsflanagan2be: Don’t tempt me. I would seriously come. I love New Brunswick!!!! Don’t tell anyone I said this, but I think it’s far prettier that Nova Scotia which seems to be everyone’s favourite 😉 I’ve been dying for an excuse to come back! I would totally crash your wedding!!! LOL!
I’ve been to many open bars (as well as toonie bars, and dry weddings). My wedding was almost an open bar (drink tickets were handed out, but no one could buy drinks once they were gone, it was really just to keep people from getting wasted). I don’t think I’ve seen a full cash bar where you’re paying $5 or more for a drink.
I agree about the regional differences. I think for the most part, rehersal dinners here are more laid-back. I don’t know of anyone who had actual invitations for them and they are usually fairly casual. Every single wedding I have been to has had a gift table with quite a few gifts. Almost no one sends gifts (as most stores don’t do that, or they charge extra). You either arrange for in-store pickup for the couple, or you bring it to the wedding. Bachelor parties/stagettes are usually not gift-giving occasions, but I know girls who have had lingerie showers instead of a stagette.
@florence: Don’t even think they have socials in The Gap! A social isn’t a luncheon (though a cold lunch is usually put out at midnight) it’s pretty much a party held at a community hall with alcohol and a DJ. They’re held months before the wedding, though. (“Social Season” is in the spring, since most weddings are held in the summer/fall) You *usually* pay $10 for a ticket to get in, buy drink tickets, and there’s a silent auction and a “perfume draw” (its a big bottle of alcohol, but technically you’re not supposed to hand over a bottle of alcohol thats not on the liquor license, so they rename it and give the prize out in the parking lot) But you are correct in that it’s to raise money for the wedding! (Though not all get a profit, unfortunately. You need the crowd!) They’re a ton of fun (I’ve been to too many then I can count since I was 15) and it’s a great way to get the community together!
Fiance and I decided against one though, too much work and we’re from two different communities 3 hours apart so we probably would have had to have 2 socials…
Excellent post..Im Canadian and marrying an American in the US. I havent noticed too many differences and that differences i noticed were regional…i.e the Cookie Table..we are getting married in PA…Besides that i havent noticed anything…
I’m glad there’s lots of people, mainly east coasters it seems, mentioning cash bars! I’ve read so much about them being a no-no. Not that that would change my mind about them, but still. Our wedding is in St. John’s, NL, and I can’t imagine anyone expecting an open bar. Fiance and family are from Saskatchewan and lots of friends of us both from out west so we are having a Newfie Screeching In at our wedding! Should be fun!
@BoiledPNut: as somebody who is having a cash bar in Ottawa with a 2 hour gap between ceremony & reception and have invited some Americans, you sure gave me a fright with this thread!
And no, we are not charging for juice/soda/coffee/tea.
I’d say the major difference between American & Canadian weddings themselves are the length of the reception (ours is going until 2 or 2:30 am) and the signing of the registry during the ceremony itself.
@janie-janie: LOL at “zed”. i lived in the US for a year and i got made fun all the time for how i pronounced things. it was worse because i had some Quebec-isms in me as well! i don;t get the capillary thing though. how do you pronounce it?
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@bebefly: i wouldn’t worry about cash bar and time gap. from what i have seen on here, those things happen all the time, its more regional/social circle than it is american/canadian!