Post # 1
I say Canadians because I know this varies all over the world, so I want to know what the norm is for Canadians.
Am I expected to pay for something for the bridesmaids? Is it rude to ask them to pay for the dress, alterations, shoes, makeup, hair, nails, etc? I’m leaving makeup and nails optional, and letting them choose their shoes.
I just don’t want to pay for anything for them. It’s costly when added on top of everything else we’re paying for. I want the hair done professionally, but they can do their own nails and makeup, that’s fine.
The dresses cost around $200 before alterations. All are okay financially except one – I’m not sure her situation but she hasn’t told me anything about price or budget (although she’s barely said a word to me since I’ve been engaged).
Post # 3
I am having my bridesmaids pay for their own dresses, I’ve told them they can do their own hair and makeup as long as I approve it first LOL.
Shoes, they will also be paying for themselves.
Both weddings I’ve been I have been expected to pay for everything myself.
Post # 4
I paid for half my BMs dresses, the kid’s outfits and probably will the hair and makeup. I don’t think you can say that there is a rule because it varies. If its convenient for you to say the rule is they pay for everything, make them pay for everything.
Yes, it is a cost to you to pay for them but otherwise its a cost for them to be part of your day – I feel awkward telling people what to buy, make them be part of your day and then having them pay for it.
Post # 5
My bridesmaids are paying for everything themselves. I made sure veryone could afford the style we were looking at for dresses and everything before I chose what I wanted. I also was very leanient on style and dresses so its not like theyre going to buy the dress and never wear it again. Im also a bridesmaid for a wedding in 2014, Im expected to pay for everything myself. I mayyy suprise the girls with getting their hair done for the wedding but im not too sure, depends on finances at the time.
Post # 6
Norm where I’m from is bridemaids pay for everything. I made sure the dress was less than $150 (most are between $100-$120). For shoes, any pair of black heels will do as they all have them anyways. I am covering jewelery. Makeup and nails are DIY unless if they want pro. I am requesting that hair get done at the salon with me though. However, even though I haven’t asked for that much (in my opinion), I told them to be upfront with me if things were pricy as we would find a way to make it work. There are no travelling costs either. So I think all in all its fairly reasonable. Total cost for the day would be less than $200.
Post # 7
I feel so awkward about it too, I just don’t think I can manage it. I didn’t want to look like a fool and be extremely rude and not pay for a single thing. It does make it easier that my mom is planning a shower, so there’s no cost from them there and the bachlorette party will be super low key and nothing extravegant.
Thank you for sharing! I was a bridesmaid when I was 14, but naturally all costs were covered by my mother, so I am completely clueless.
Post # 8
My 2 girls bought their own dress and shoes, although they had free rein on that, I just wanted the same colour and material, they ended up getting the same thing, $200, they also got their own shoes $30, I’m going to pay for the pedi’s, and I got them thier shawls…