(Closed) Cancel the wedding to elope??

posted 4 years ago in Elopement
Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

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coknights10 :  Ah, I see. Well thats understandable. πŸ™‚ In that case if he’s as comfortable with an elopement as you are then make the change. My first wedding was confidential. Not exactly an elopememt but similar. Didn’t require any witnesses and we were married under a huge windmill in a San Francisco park. Had photos there and then at the beach. You can still make it a beautiful day! But if you want quality photos hire a photographer. 😎 We didn’t care at the time so our officiant just snapped a bunch of phone pics. They came out nice but obviously not professional.

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Helper bee

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coknights10 :  We are planning on hiking around Estes Park area but it’s all up in the air. Not many hard-fast plans being made, except for The Day of course. We aren’t doing any of the packages that you can find. I’ve found a photographer, I might get my hair/nails done (maybe not, idk), we are just going to for a hike and find somewhere that resonates with us.

The parents all want a party when we get back home, which I think I’m going to have to compromise about. But it will be just a party, not a reception. Not focused on us. Just a party. The definition of low-key!

I hope it all works out with you guys!

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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coknights10 :  I think the elopement package sounds like a FANTASTIC idea.

I had a huge wedding and while I loved the day and it was perfect, the planning part TOTALLY SUCKED BADLY and I literally was so glad it was over! Just so not my thing at all…

I think you need to go with your gut and if your Fiance is on board and your parents and ILs are happy, then I say go for it!!!!!

But make sure you post a recap on the Bee bc I’ve always wanted to see Colorado lol! πŸ˜‰ I say splurge on a sick photographer and leave the rest of the guests at home…

Post # 22
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Worker bee

 

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coknights10 :  

I was in a similar boat as you not too long ago. We got engaged mid June 2015 and in May this year we realised we still have not thought about a wedding date, location etc  

So we started planning right away and it took us exactly 6 weeks of planning until we reached that “F#*#* this shit, how about we elope? Lol

However we were not totally sold on eloping yet as we didnt want family to miss out. Anyway long story short: family were happy for us to elope as they knew that is what we wanted. I should mention that logistics of a bigger wedding (85 guests) was very difficult for us since we live in Australia but my whole family lives in Europe. 

So end of Sept we made the decision to elope while holidaying in Bali this month. We told immidiate family only about our plan.

Wear your pretty dress! Do all those things you want πŸ™‚ just because you are eloping doesnt mean you have to scale down – we certainly didnt πŸ™‚ hell, i even got my giant round helium ballons haha

 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Nepal

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mawagedweam07192017 :  I love this! My Fiance and I are doing something similar. I will deifintely be wearing hiking boots with my wedding dress. laughing

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

This is exactly what we did. Canceled our wedding for the end of May and eloped at San Francisco City Hall. It was actually quite beautiful. I still wore my dress, he wore a suit. We hired a professional photographer. My sister and mom came as did his immediate family. We don’t regret it one bit. If you wanna do it, DO IT!

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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coknights10 :  So, I was working on my pre-recs to do a one year BSN and working as a tech at a hospital and planning and wedding and I got overwhelmed and ended up making myself so sick I was in the hospital and ended up missing my final. Don’t do that to yourself! 

With that said…We ended up eloping on 12/22. We ARE still having the ceremony next year in September though. Only a handfull of people know we got married, but it oddly took a TON of stress off me and him. My anxiety level isn’t hovering at an 8 all the time with me ready to explode. As soon as we were offical and the stress was off I have been wanting to spend my spare time working on the wedding. I used to come in every single time they called for bonus and I’ve been turning them down so I can stay at home and work on wedding stuff. 

I’m also in the same situation where the big wedding isn’t for me. It’s for my parents and his parents and my grandma. I’m honestly not walking down the Isle, I’m coming out from the side, because I don’t want 300 people I don’t really know looking at me (mostly his family, mine is small). Even if you have a 100 person wedding it doesn’t have to be a big thing, and you don’t have to do the entire princess thing. It’s your day and it’s about you, even if you are having it for everyone else. 

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Nepal

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coknights10 :  Yes! I have always been fascinated with Mt. Everest, which turned into a love for backpacking and mountaineering. I have been following an adventure wedding photographer for two years and contacted him on a whim to see if he had any cool trips planned for 2017. He let me know of a few locations and we were actually considering Iceland. A week later he emailed me saying he really wanted to photograph a wedding at Mt. Everest base camp and if we would be interested. It’s really crazy how it all unfolded but I definitely think it was meant to be!

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

If you decide to change up the wedding plans, I would still invite your grandparents. How hurt would they be if they couldn’t see you get married on your wedding day… πŸ˜” I am firmly of the opinion that weddings are for families and elopements are for the couple. And there is nothing wrong with either. I was sick to death of wedding planning but followed through with the whole shebang because I knew how special it would be to have all our loved ones together in one place for a day. And it truly was an amazing day and evening.

We did a private ceremony and dinner just the two of us on our honeymoon in Jamaica though, and it was a perfect moment we shared together. I know though that I would have regretted doing only that because I am so close with all my family, especially my parents, sister, and grandparents. I would have wanted them there. We were also very lucky to have the finances to be able to do our wedding and our private ceremony/dinner.

In our city, the absolute cheapest photography packages are $2,800. We thought we got a pretty good deal with our $4,800 package as we got quotes up to $10,000. 

Post # 29
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Newbee

Ohhh, do I feel you on this. I’m also a CO bride, and we were planning a church wedding etc., until a couple months ago, when I realized I just… didn’t care. At all. Haha. I’d already gotten the dress (a beautiful Liancarlo!), and really do love it too much to not wear it. We’re both also lawyers who met in court, so we decided to do this:

We got a room at the Brown Palace. We’ll stay there the night before and a couple nights after. We’re getting married at the Denver courthouse. I’m wearing my beautiful dress (paired with a cardigan for the courthouse so it’s not totally ridiculous looking), and he’s wearing a brand new suit. I’m having a bouquet and his boutonniere made by a great florist in Denver (Beet & Yarrow, if you’re looking for one). We rented a limo for 5 hours ($350!), and found a photog ($500 for the full day!). He will get up in the morning and go have breakfast while I get ready (still having my hair done!). Photog will arrive and we will do our first look in the Brown Palace lobby (because it’s so gorgeous), then head to the courthouse. We’ll get married, and then we’re cruising around town with our photog in the limo to take photos all over the place. (Red Rocks, downtown, Union Station, Marjorie Park, Civic Center Park, etc.) We will sip champagne and frolic around town in our wedding clothes and get great photos and have fun. Then we’re picking up sushi from our favorite sushi spot. Massages the next day, then a roadtrip mini-moon for a week!

I say do what you want. I wanted to wear the dress, do the first look, get great photos, and keep it easy. We’ve made so many decisions about what we’re doing so quickly, because all we have to care about is what we want. In total, we will spend $2500 on the wedding. We’re looking forward to being driven around, laughing, and capturing fun photos in a ton of different locations. It’s about you two, not the rest of the world and what they think a wedding should be.

Let me know if you’d like any other names (our photog, for example, who is WONDERFUL) or tips. I hope it works out for you guys! xoxo

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