(Closed) Cancel the wedding? Yes or No

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

No. I think you can still pull this off. How about using an IPOD? Maybe some of the bees can help out with centerpiece ideas.

Good luck!

Post # 4
762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh no!

First, could you use a sound system at your venue? If so, maybe FI’s “friend” DJ could download some songs onto an i-pod. If not search for dj’s in your area asap. Someone’s bound to have an opening.

Centerpieces are not a big deal. What do you want to have? Maybe we could come up with something quick if we have an idea of what you wanted. Or better yet, a fellow bee could lend you them!

Money is always an issue. But you might waste more of it cancelling! See if a friend/family memeber can loan you something, or charge it?

Post # 5
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am sorry things aren’t going well for you right now.

I don’t think you should call off the wedding. You don’t have to have a centerpeice at every table. If you want something at every table, just go to the dollar store and pick up a few vases and votive and pillare candles. You can put the pillare candles inside the vases and put a few votive candles around them and on some of the table. And, for the music, if you can’t find someone else right now, borrow an iPod. We are considering going with an iPod to save money and we found a DJ that will preload the music for us for $150.00. We pick the iPod up the day before and return it the following Monday.

The most important part of the wedding is you and your Fiance. You can make it work. I know you can.

Post # 6
521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

No. You will probably lose a lot of monies..since usually cancellations should be made 90 days in advance to get your money back.

1.) come up with something similar or different for your centerpieces. It can easily be fixed and you can find something inexpensive. What was your inspiration? Or find the materials online and get it rushed to you.

2.) Ipod and a different friend. Or find a replacement DJ asap..but won’t help with point three.


Take a few deep breaths. Things will work out.

Post # 7
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

No don’t cancel!  You worked so hard to get this far.

Call up your family and get them on board to help you pull through.  Assign someone the job of finding another DJ, even if that just means setting up a microphone and iPod and speakers.  I hate to suggest this, owners of bars and night clubs can probably give you names and phone numbers of their regular DJ’s.

Let us know if you need ideas to fix your centerpieces.  You can make this happen!

Post # 10
1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You poor thing!!

Ok, take a step back and breathe!  The wedding isn’t about the DJ or the flowers, it’s about marrying your fiance.  I know its so hard to remember this right before your wedding (I’m going through the same thing right now), but things will work out. 

If your DJ can only stay for an hour, does the venue have equipment that you can hook an iPod up to?? Can you rent his equipment for the remainder of the time?

What were you planning to do with the centerpieces?  Head to Michael’s or an Arts & Crafts store and grab one of the the flower design decorations person and have them help you make some awesome centerpieces with the money you have and enough for each table.  Money is low?  Don’t cancel!  How about all the money you have already spent!!

At the end of the day, the wedding is about you and your fiance marrying each other.

My college roommate planned her outdoor wedding reception for 2 years.  Her parents built an entire large wooden deck, redid their home in the mountains, added a pergola, and a veranda type thing for the ceremony.  The wedding and reception were to take place in the backyard of their beautiful mountain home in the Rockies in the middle of June.  The night before the wedding was a flash flood storm and their wedding was literally rained out.  The flowers/centerpieces, everything that they rented, were ruined.  They were able to find a church to get married in THE DAY OF THE WEDDING and a random Knights of Columbus Hall where NOTHING matched, not even the tableclothes.  The centerpieces were left over from some Southern BBQ that was hosted the night before, but you know what?  They still looked happier and more vibrant and in love that day than I have ever seen them before.  It’s a funny story now (this was 5 years ago). 

Don’t cancel your wedding. 

Post # 11
2867 posts
Sugar bee

Can you find various glass sizes, not the same? 

Post # 12
521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Maybe just compromises and use any yellow flower that you can find? Than atleast it will still have the yellow factor…

check out goodwill or other resale stores to find cheap vases? you might hit the jackpot.

Get some help! Family, Bridesmaid or Best Man, or Friends? I bet a few will help you out..

Post # 14
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Look around your house for centerpiece ideas such as picture frames, books, wine bottles, etc.  Good luck!

Post # 15
3068 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

1. Do different center pieces if you have to. Order some from Etsy, people have tons of cute stuff there, and have them overnight it to you.

2. IPOD it! Or play a radio. Nobody cares if the DJ is only there an hr! Worst case, look on Craigslist for a local college student who can play some music for another 2 hours or so.


Don’t cancel your wedding. This is YOUR day and YOU have been waiting for it!

Post # 16
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

What are you missing for the centerpieces? the glass? You could do all sorts of glasses, wine glasses, vases, etc. and it would look really cool!

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