(Closed) Cancel wedding and just elope?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: what should we do?
    Cancel Wedding, Just go and elope! : (11 votes)
    55 %
    Cancel ceremony, elope and have reception at the date originally planned : (8 votes)
    40 %
    Keep the wedding and reception, regardless of whether your parents will come : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    388 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    You haven’t really said what YOU want. It sounds like you weren’t really bothered either way so if I were you I would just elope, it will be special jut the two of u. Don’t get caught up in the hype I your not 100% set on a big wedding

    Post # 4
    Member
    9181 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I think if YOU want to have the big wedding with all your loved ones, you should.  I’m sure your parents will realize how important it is and will be there.  If you think it’s not worth the headache and you’d rather just elope, there’s that old adage about “throwing good money after bad”.  Better to cut yourr $2500 losses and do what you want (IF you don’t want the whole shebang).

    ETA:  I”m sorry, this is shitty  ๐Ÿ™

    Post # 6
    Member
    845 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    This sounds a lot like my situation.  I really don’t care that much, but now that I’ve put all this thought and effort into planning the wedding, my parents whining about paying for a wedding that they insisted I have makes me mad.  My dad is still paying, but he’s become a little MIA now that deposits are due.

    If you honestly don’t care, just elope.  You’ll be happier and it won’t stress you out!

    Although the City Hall thing sounds great!

    Post # 8
    Member
    388 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Awww i reallly feel for you, I’m sure they do want to come, just not thinking about you at the min, more about the effort but I’m sure as soon as you have made a firm choice they will stop thinking about it and start thinking about how good it will be to go to their daughters wedding ๐Ÿ™‚ . I say go to city hall, it sounds perfect ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 10
    Member
    2840 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I say go with the city hall / small dinner and bbq idea you had at the beginning. Sorry your parents don’t want to come. That’s sad.

    Post # 11
    Member
    643 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @lstyle25:  i just wanted City Hall with our parents, dinner after with them and close friends, honeymoon and then casual BBQ with everyone to announce our marriage.. ๐Ÿ™ either way i will never have the wedding of my dreams since my parents dont truly want to come


    Do exactly this. Call your parents, tell them how upset you are and how important it is that they be there. Pull out the waterworks. Call off this big wedding that nobody really wants and do what will make you happy.

    I’m sure your parents would come if you made it absolutely clear to them how hurt you are by their resistance to coming. Offer to pay for the entire wedding yourself and they can use the 5000 they were going to give you to pay for their hotel and flights. Don’t take no for an answer.

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