canceled wedding, awful inlaws

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Mama’s boys are a dealbreaker for me. Your SO is 39, he’s not going to change.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

Marriage is not just about two people coming together, it’s also about two families coming together. It doesn’t sound like this is the type of family you want to or should join. Consider this a warning sign, especially since you verified that it wasn’t just you going crazy – other people have had this experience too many years ago.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

It sounds like you might have to. I feel like you could accept the fact that his family is difficult/dramatic/crazy/etc IF he would at least stick up for you around them and be able to see where you’re coming from. The fact that he won’t even stand up for you is a huge problem. You deserve a man who always has your back!! 

Post # 6
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

Yes. He’s never going to change. You don’t have to have perfect in-laws but you do have to be with someone who will make YOU the priority. That means standing up for you, trusting you, and not allowing himself to be manipulated by his family.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Run like hell. He will NEVER put you before his family and that’s no way to be in a marriage. You can deal with awful in laws if your partner stands up for you but if he won’t, you’re in for a life of misery.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

jellymelle :  

Oh, for gawd’s sake.  He canceled your wedding to please mommy and daddy, yet you’re thinking this might be husband material?

Here’s some free Cher therapy for you:  snap out of it!

Post # 9
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488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Leave. 

Just. Leave.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

His mother will always come before you. Don’t fool yourself into thinking this will change.

Run. Run like your tampon string is on fire 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

He ended your engagement and bailed on your wedding. He won’t be with someone who doesn’t like his parents, and you don’t like his parents. You’ve lost faith and respect for him. He’s a 37 year old mama’s boy who has not stood up for you even once. Why would you stay? 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

You RUN away from all of this.  DWIL is a sight for people who have huge problems with inlaws.  A huge percentage of these serious marital issues stem from husbands who come from dysfunctional parents and prioritize parents over spouse.  Spend a day reading there and you will have no doubts that you need to run away.

Post # 13
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3060 posts
Sugar bee

Oh, how I wish this guy met his own Inlaws from hell…

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

why would you want to chose to spend your life with someone who doesn’t defend you when he knows the truth.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think the time to walk away was a year ago… you want a husband that respects his parents but puts you first.

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