- 9 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
Im so glad to have found this, have been going through a tough time myself lately and have felt really isolated.
My fiance and I have been together for about 6 1/2 years (living together for most of it) and engagened for 6 months (wedding planned for Jan). About two months ago we had an argument and ever since then he’s been a different person. He tells me were not “suited” for each other and wants to cancel the wedding, it feels completely bazaar, its like he’s a stranger. Gosh we were so happy leading up to it, no concerns or worries at all and he has even said he was not worried about the wedding at all, until all of a sudden now.
I feel like he’s wrapped up in this negative frame of mind and I can’t break him out of it no matter what my approach is (i.e understanding, angry, hurt and sad), he’s just all of a sudden treating me like he doesn’t love me anymore (even though he says he does).
I’ve been so devestated and hurt, I have no idea what to do. I’ve gone to stay with a friend for a bit but am not hopeful he will change his mind.
What hurts me the most is that, if he thinks we have some issues that could prevent us from being happy, then my thought is that you focus on working those out…you do whatever you can to make sure you have TRIED as hard as you can…it doesn’t feel like he’s tried, it feels like he’s given up.
I guess my thoughts now are to just give him some time alone and try not talking to him for a little while however as soon as I left the house he sent me a message that night asking where the paperwork is for our reception so he can cancel it. How bloody mean! Couldn’t he have given it a few days after I left before saying something else, yet again, to hurt me?!
I don’t get it and I wish I did.