(Closed) Canceling my Shower

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3688 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Where are you from? I know that in some countries (and even in some parts of some countries), Jack and Jill-type parties are commonly done and widely accepted. I had never heard of anything like a Jack and Jill until I joined WeddingBee, so it’s not common in my area.

Post # 4
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603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Why not just do the Jack and Jill and not do any raffels..just have a fun party with games or whatever you were going to do anyway…good luck!

Post # 7
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603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@jhey83:  hmm…they have a little too much say in your wedding in my opinion…I know they helped financially but I dont think that gives them a free pass to make such changes…hard though as they are family and you dont really want to fall out..maybe tell them that people are not required to do the raffel thing…but that your friends want to do this for you..you appreciate all that they have done etc… I dont see what they big deal is if people arent expected to all buy tickets…:)

Post # 8
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Honestly! Our stag n doe was way more trouble than it was worth.  Just forget about it all.  Have your wedding and be married. 

There is no law saying you must have a shower, and must have a jack n jill.  Traditionally they are just to help the couple acquire things for moving out on their own. You have everything, the wedding is where you will celebrate, not a jack n jill.

Post # 9
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Also, i think it would be strange to have a Jack n Jill minus the fundraising.  The people going will wonder where they will spend their money, and probably expect certain games and everything.  A raffle would be pointless since you do not need the money. 

I dont see the need in throwing a pre-wedding reception (which is basically what it would be) plus your wedding reception. 

Post # 10
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

SO, I just thought of something.  have you had an engagement party? You could do a mixed gender shower/e-party, and have a special theme for gifts. 

Post # 11
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9549 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m not sure where you’re from but I’ve also never heard of a raffle at a Jack and Jill shower. I wouldn’t be offended or anything, but it’s not something that is on my radar. So I can understand your parent’s reaction against it. If it were me, I’d just get rid of the raffle and let people bring presents or cards with money if they want and do a regular cocktail party type thing. But if you’re frustrated and want to cancel the whole thing, that’s fine. Just don’t turn around and have regrets that you didn’t do anything.

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