Post # 17
I don’t think it’s rude to invite someone else. People understand budgets and can always say no if they don’t agree with it. It’s all in how you word it; just tell them that you had an opening and really wanted them to come.
Post # 18
We invited a few ppl two week before and it was fine, they understood. It really depends on your relationship with them. They came and had a great time….or so they tell me. 😉
Post # 19
it’s not always rude.
I would be thrilled to be a last mintue guest. I have tons of friends I’d love to invite but just can’t and if people sold out last mintue without doubt I’m inviting them last mintue.
hey I paid for food, SOMEONE should enjoy it.
Post # 20
@mcnetn3: thanks for the heads-up. i know it’s common that people get sick and can’t make it. we already have another guest who won’t be there due to emergency surgery- i know no one can forsee that kind of thing and i certainly don’t think my wedding should take precedence over someone’s health! i guess it’s more the nature of this specific cancellation- no one is sick, her and her husband just rsvp’d yes when they weren’t really sure they could make it.
@JoeBeth12: you’re right. i think that is what’s bothering me even more than the 2 empty place settings, $200 worth of food and drinks going uneaten, etc. We were given a reason, but it really just sounded like poor planning on their part. It’s sort of a weird family situation, so i do my best not to pry…
Thank you ladies for all the input! It seems like everyone is split on the ‘invite-last-minute’ issue. I’m still not sure what we’ll do- I think I may be leaving this one up to my fiancee!
Post # 21
dont invite other guests. That could end badly. Just hurt feelings about not making the cut till someone backs out etc. I would say leave the seating there is no need to stress about 2 place settings. There are emptys always. Every wedding I have been to there are always at least 3 placecards till sitting on the table for the people who were supposed to show up and then didnt.. I wouldnt worry to much about it.
Post # 22
Invite other fun friends! If they are relaxed and just hoping to celebrate and have a good time, they’ll go with the flow. If they have ever been remotely involved in planning a wedding, they should understand that things happen last minute and that very few people are really able to invite everyone that they’d like to. Just rearrange the seating so that you can fill those two seats with other family, and put the new guests in a more appropriate spot 🙂
Post # 23
Are there any kids you didn’t invite or someone said to get a babysitter? Maybe you can invite them?