Cancelled big wedding

posted 10 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
Member
593 posts
Busy bee

Has anyone been financially put out by this and have lost money? If not, they can get lost. 

If they want to go to Cuba so bad then they can go on a holiday. Seems like such a stupid thing for them to ‘hate’ you over. If they really are going to make an issue out of this then the bond can’t be that strong and you may be better off without them.

Post # 3
Member
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Is your family upset because they already spent money on stuff that won’t happen? Or just because it’s not what THEY dreamed of?
If it’s because they pictured something different, then… Sorry, but screw them. It’s you and your FI’s wedding, and they should support however you want to celebrate it. 
It’s very sensible to put that much money aside for your future!

Post # 4
Member
794 posts
Busy bee

Agreed with the previous posters; if they are on the hook for $ that cannot be recouped, then I would understand some frustration. But if people are actually “hating” you because you changed your own wedding plans? Fuck ‘em. That’s ridiculous. 

Post # 5
Member
932 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

It has only been a day. Give them time to take this all in. Don’t feel guilty about wanting something different for YOUR wedding. Hell it makes sense that you can take that money and put it towards a house. But now I am curious will your parents still give you the money like they would have if you had a big wedding to puts towards a house? And I am pretty sure your entire family doesn’t hate you. That’s a pretty strong assumption. Don’t be so hard on yourself. They are probulary just hurt and it will go away with time. 

Post # 6
Member
1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

TBH – unless Save-The-Date Cards or invites went out confirming the location, the guests were idiots to spend large amounts of money on this wedding. It’s still 9 months away geez.

Let them get over it. It’s your wedding – your choice.

Post # 7
Member
7340 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I agree w/ PPs–unless people are losing money due to your change in plans they will get over it. Give them time.

Leave a comment


Find Amazing Vendors