Post # 1
Well, so me and my fiance had a wedding date set for april 11 2020 in Cuba where all my family was going to attend. It was a beautiful place and all my family was excited as I was. The wedding was going to cost a lot of money and my parents were going to help pay for it. Today, we cancelled that wedding and decided that we will marry with a notary at the city park because we came to realize that it is stupid to spend that money in just one day. Mora than 15K by the way and we would use that money for an apartment or house instead. Now my entire family hates and I just feel broken in so many pieces that I dont know what to do.
Post # 2
Has anyone been financially put out by this and have lost money? If not, they can get lost.
If they want to go to Cuba so bad then they can go on a holiday. Seems like such a stupid thing for them to ‘hate’ you over. If they really are going to make an issue out of this then the bond can’t be that strong and you may be better off without them.
Post # 3
Is your family upset because they already spent money on stuff that won’t happen? Or just because it’s not what THEY dreamed of?
If it’s because they pictured something different, then… Sorry, but screw them. It’s you and your FI’s wedding, and they should support however you want to celebrate it.
It’s very sensible to put that much money aside for your future!
Post # 4
Agreed with the previous posters; if they are on the hook for $ that cannot be recouped, then I would understand some frustration. But if people are actually “hating” you because you changed your own wedding plans? Fuck ‘em. That’s ridiculous.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
It has only been a day. Give them time to take this all in. Don’t feel guilty about wanting something different for YOUR wedding. Hell it makes sense that you can take that money and put it towards a house. But now I am curious will your parents still give you the money like they would have if you had a big wedding to puts towards a house? And I am pretty sure your entire family doesn’t hate you. That’s a pretty strong assumption. Don’t be so hard on yourself. They are probulary just hurt and it will go away with time.
Post # 6
TBH – unless Save-The-Date Cards or invites went out confirming the location, the guests were idiots to spend large amounts of money on this wedding. It’s still 9 months away geez.
Let them get over it. It’s your wedding – your choice.
Post # 7
I agree w/ PPs–unless people are losing money due to your change in plans they will get over it. Give them time.