(Closed) Cancelled Wedding

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 18
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4544 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry this happened to you but think you made an excellent choice! He sounds like he’s got major issues and is controlling and you don’t want that!

Post # 19
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2190 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m so sorry you had to deal with that and have to deal with canceling everything but GOOD FOR YOU!! It takes courage to do what you did. You are way better off. 

Post # 20
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1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m really sorry you had to go through all of that… but he does NOT sound like the kind of person that anyone should spend their life with. Good for you for standing up for yourself!

Post # 21
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2545 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Holy smokes. You did the right thing. That is freaking insane for your ex to do. You deserve so much more than that.

Post # 22
Member
4883 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

 

You are now about to be able to actually live your life.  It’s only going to get better from here!

Post # 23
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1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m sorry you have to deal with all of that, but I’m glad that you found the courage to stand up to him.  You deserve better than that! Good luck *hugs*.

 

Post # 24
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5495 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m so proud of you for having the courage to stand up for yourself! A lot of women wouldn’t be able to do it. Good for you for being strong! Good luck with everything.

Post # 25
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It doesn’t sound like you both were ready for marriage since you were fighting so much.  I’m glad you are relieved of the situation.  But something did come to mind when reading your OP… and he shouldn’t have been so controlling (ESPECIALLY about the family part, that’s just wrong), but it sounded like he got so frustrated with everything that happened before this conversation.  Like you were hanging out until really late with people of the opposite sex?  He didn’t sound comfortable with it. Perhaps you both didn’t agree on money habits/spending?  He sounded at witts end with the post you typed.  Again, I don’t mean to create any waves, and I have no idea what your relationship entailed… but I just wanted to mention that stuff.  Since we don’t personally know you, often times we don’t always here the whole story. Nonetheless, if it got that bad it’s really better that you didn’t go any further and again please don’t take this negatively… just some of my thoughts. And I’m glad you got out of it, family is a big part of each persons life and that should not be taken away ever.

Post # 26
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1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

First of all, I want to give you a great big hug! I know that you’re probably feeling a lot of emotions right now, and I cannot even begin to imagine what you’re going through. But know that you absolutely did the right thing! You’re completely right: this behavior will probably only get worse (not better) after marriage, and it’s dangerous to be with a controlling partner. Besides, who wants to be with someone who will only be with you and love you conditionally? Your spouse is supposed to love you no matter what, even at those times when you do not deserve that love. I know things are difficult now, but you will be so much happier and better off in the long run without this guy!  

Post # 27
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2187 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh my gosh – I’m so happy that you stuck up for yourself. Those “rules”?? Unbelievable! Who does that? Good for you! Hang in there though, I’m sorry you are going through this.

Post # 28
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1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You made the right choice….your life would have been miserable living with his ‘rules’.  What an ASS!  Good luck…the right man for you is out there!!

Post # 29
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61 posts
Worker bee

You had a very lucky escape with that one, congrats! Now go find a man that isn’t insecure and i’m sure you’ll be very happy!

🙂 

Post # 30
Member
61 posts
Worker bee

You had a very lucky escape with that one, congrats! Now go find a man that isn’t insecure and i’m sure you’ll be very happy!

🙂 

Post # 31
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4799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@Mrs.Firefly1: None of that stuff came to my mind at all – the only thing I was thinking was that if you look at a list of signs of an abuser you can just check off each one hearing what he is saying to her! Glad you got out, OP!

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