(Closed) Cancelling a Wedding (17 Days Out)

posted 6 years ago in November 2012
Post # 3
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2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Lean on the people who are being lovely. Tell everyone else to shut the f**k up and leave you alone. And then make them leave you alone. 

You’re at a really tough part, when the drama tends to come to a head. If you are trying to please others, you’ll wear yourselves completely out. Time to shut out the drama and just do your thing. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am sorry that you’re having such a difficult time! How would you feel about eloping all romantic-like with your fiance before the wedding? Then you can have something special and drama-free for you and your soon-to-be husband, but still have the party to celebrate with friends and family that are truly supportive. Just a thought Smile

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Hi Mrs Hoot (I am an Aussie bee to and getting married one day after you) – I can totally relate! I would suggest just trying to focus on the family and friends that are so excited for you. On the day, hopefully these issues will be forgotten when you are looking into your FI/DH’s eyes and saying your vows to each other!

Like you I am totally exhausted, and life keeps throwing curve balls at me in these last few weeks too! Try and look after yourself, book yourself in for a massage and keep yourself going with some good vitamins & herbs (speak to your local naturopath for some advice). I am a naturopath and I swear this is all that is getting me through!

Good luck and I hope everything goes smoothly for you! 🙂

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Mrs Hoot:  Just let it go.  It’s your day not theirs, so don’t allow them to make it about them.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had the same issues and sooooo wanted to cancel the wedding a week before the day and just get married on our honeymoon. We stuck it out, let everything roll off our shoulders and when the day came we were glad we did. The wedding was wonderful and all the drama and people and bad things going on before the wedding just didn’t matter. Take it one day at a time it’ll all come together and work out. The last few weeks are the hardest part but the end result is worth it. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Mrs Hoot:  I’m so sorry your dealing with all this drama!! I have a hard time ignoring it when it hits close to home too.

Try to stay focuses on those who are helping and make you happy. If Fi’s brother and dad show up, be thankful, if not, then at least your prepared for it. 2 people won’t make or break the day. Focus on your love for each other, at the end of it all you’ll have mr hoot by your side, thats all that matters and after the wedding you can address all the issues and decide if these are people you need in your life.

If your sisters daughter talks thru the ceremony, have the officiant stop and shush her, embarrassing her might help…no need for you to be embarrassed about it, your not the one running your mouth. If FI’s mom shows up and you don’t want her there, have a designated person to escort her out.

Good luck, don’t throw in the towel yet!

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Poor you, that sure takes the joy our of a wedding.  I agree with the other girls, just try to let it roll off of your back.  Why not delegate a “Sh*t Wrangler” –a trusted family member that will keep their eyes peeled for any drama and nip it in the bud (ie.  ask the Drama King or Queen to excuse themselves from the festivities)?  Sometimes just knowing that someone is on the lookout is all you will need to relax.  Good luck, hang in there and Congratulations! 🙂

 

Post # 13
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257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Mrs Hoot:  I’d use your ‘sh*t wrangler” to have the 4 year old escorted right out the door. 🙂 but I’m a b*&ch like that LOL and for what its worth, thats why i am not allowing any kids at my wedding, i don’t care WHO they belong to, even my nieces who i adore NO KIDS!!!

Hope it works out sweetie

Post # 14
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757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It seems like its time to just stop answering your phone. Put it on silent, and institute a deal with your Fiance that you can only talk about wedding stuff that makes you both happy. He shouldn’t take calls from his brother and father, just leave it alone, and put something on facebook that is like “Crazy with wedding stuff, sorry if I don’t respond to texts or calls!” and create a happy safe space around the two of you.

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Pretty much try and stay away from or avoid the negative people.  If they call don’t answer…if they text, have your fi read it and only respnd if it’s on the postivie side. Hope it all blows over soon so you can enjoy your day.

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