(Closed) Cancelling Destination Bachelorette in Vegas Due to Last Minute Cancellations?

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Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Is everyone far away from each other?  Do any of them live relatively close?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, I’d just go with the one girlfriend!  WHY NOT! 

I have been so bummed cause so many people haven’t been able to come to our destination wedding (like, we’re having 30 versus the 80 we thought)… but the more I think about it, the more I realize that the ones who truly matter will be there – and it will be fun no matter what!

Travelling with just one person will be awesome – no disagreements over where to go for dinner / drinks… no peer pressure to get wild.  Just go… have fun.  Have a spa day, spend a day at the pool, go to happy hour and be guaranteed a seat. 

I vote just do it 🙂  YOU can make Vegas fun, be it with 1 or 12 people 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, I would just go with your awesome friend and have a girls’ weekend.  You have the ticket, you have an amazing friend, why not make the most of both and go enjoy yourself?  It really sucks, but try not to let comparisons get you down.  Having just planned a destination bachelorette for a friend, which occurred on the same night and in the same city as her fiance’s, it seemed like the guys were a lot less flaky than the women.  We had a lot of last-minute cancellations and more than a few of the guests didn’t contribute their share of expenses as agreed.  My understanding is that was not a problem for the guys at all.   

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’d just go!

I know it sucks, but it’s also not really fair to say “they spent more on other peoples’ bachelorettes” – you don’t really know where they are financially compared to then. Just go and have a good time with your bestie.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If you have the ticket just go, and have a bachlorette closer to home. I think in thise case because the parties are destination it harder for people then a local night out.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

It’s NOT you. I have noticed this trend A LOT with other brides, friends, etc. I don’t know if it is “facebook phenomena” or what the deal is. Many will commit, appear excited, FB and BBM the crap out of the topic, then privately let you know that they cannot make it. They will back out and give endless reasons, like if they don’t come, no biggie, because they won’t be missed as lots of other ppl are going, right…right? And everyone has this attitude, and then no one comes, or next to no one. People will live their lives through the lens of others, or the internet, or even worse, not at all.

Some refuse to just go through with their committments without giving a thought that it would really hurt that person that they are not going to be there sharing with them. It could just be money…most likely it is–do you know how many pretend to have a lot more than what they actually have? you just don’t know.  Or, it could be emotional. You know, a jealous boyfriend, or no interest in gambling.

You just don’t know.

I really think you should just go with whoever can go. You will have a blast and want tobe with people who actually want to be there, not grumbling internally because they are  there because they feel obliged.

 

I don’t understand it, but know it can happen.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@fivemonthsnotice:  I agree with this! I know a lot of people and even friends of mine tend to be flaky. I was supposed to have 5 girls come to my bachelorette party weekend, and not I’m down to 3. The only thing you can do is make the best of your situation. You can still have fun!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think you should use your ticket and just go with whatever friends can go with you.

Sometimes, when people are asked to commit to something they will say yes and sound excited because they don’t want to upset the person asking. This exact scenario happened to a friend of mine and I am certain that she was very upset that a lot of us could not make it to her destination bachelorette. I know in your case that your friends have done this before for other friends, so that sucks, that you know they would do it but just can’t or won’t for you.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I know it’s hard to not take it personally, but @fivemonthsnotice hit the nail right on the head. 

If it’s just you and your bestie going, you are going to have a blast. You have to appreciate the person who is going, not mourn the people who aren’t!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

@Bichon Frise:  I know! I have a few friends who do this, will commit to things, FB about it, then PM me that they have a migraine or Boyfriend or Best Friend is over…and cancel. I hardly ever try t oget together the “girls” anymore cuz my girls are all over southern Ontario. The last time I tried was before Xmas. Well…some couldnt make it legitimately and a few others cancelled the day of and I had 2 left.

I think especially with wedding planning that some girls cannot handle the idea of a friend getting married and living that “girly dream” of the engagement time, wedding, dresses, etc. I am not suggesting that this is what is happening with her, but I have had a friend already tell me she cannot attend my wedding as she hsa her bf’s distant cousin wedding the same night as they are having it at their parents house trying to save money.

Really? They are trying to save money and have it at their parents so they are having it on a Sunday evening like us?

bah.

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