(Closed) Cancelling / Postpoining Wedding

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Elope?...or Wedding?
    We feel your pain - Elope : (26 votes)
    84 %
    Keep going - Wedding : (5 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    17 posts
    • Wedding: July 2013

    It seems to me, that you need to take stock of what is important to you.  So far it seems like you are trying to please everyone else with your wedding.  Since that doesn’t seem to be working, you might as well please yourself.  

    Are you happy with the decisions you’ve made and the vendors you’ve booked so far?  Do they reflect you and your FH’s wants and needs?  If the answer is yes, then keep planning the wedding!  Stay true to your vision.  Do what you want to do, and stand your ground.

    If the answer is no, you need to do a little more reflecting.  Can you alter existing plans to suit your vision, with some or all of the vendors that you’ve currently booked?  If you can, consider whether you and your FH want to put in that kind of effort.

    Finally, if you feel that there is no way to salvage the current plans, eat the deposits and elope.  THE most important thing about your day is that you and your FH are happy with the decisions that you’ve made.  

    I know that you wanted the wedding to be a family experience.  However, if you’re being treated unfairly, you need to do what is best for YOU.  Twenty years from now, will you look back and wish you had done things differently? 

    Post # 4
    399 posts
    Helper bee

    I agree. Maybe stop telling other people about the details (the problem people I mean, not your friends or whomeevr else you share exciting happy times with) If tehy ask, just always say “we’re still working on it” or “its a surprise” If what you really want to do is elope, DO IT!

    Post # 5
    485 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m eloping so I may be biased, but I would say elope (only if you truly want to). You can even buy an elopement package to wherever you want to go and they’ll take care of all of the details for you! 🙂 Good luck with your decison!!

    Post # 6
    13 posts
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Throughout the course of your life, you will have the opinions of friends and family trying to make you question/change your choices. Don’t let that alone dissuade you from having the wedding you want. If it feels like the wedding you’re planning is what you both want, then just do it and ignore all the chatter.

    Haters gonna hate.

    Post # 7
    1471 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    you have to do what you want, getting married is not all about the wedding.  I told Fiance that i did want to have a wedding but that if it was going to be something really stressful I would rather elope, because its all about us and our relationship.  I do not think a wedding is worth it if its going to be stressfull, thats not what it’s about, so If it’s too much and not fun anymore, I say elope!

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