(Closed) Cancelling the wedding….

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2016 - Sacred Heart Catholic Church

txprincess11 :  Just wanted to say sorry.  Could you do a courthouse wedding or a inexpensive wedding?  My wedding is going to cost less than $1,000.  You don’t need a fancy shindig, just love.  When things get better, you can do a vow renewal as a dream wedding.  

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

so sorry to hear. But yes weddings do add up and it depends what you are after?

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

You asked before if you should do courthouse or venue. You decided on a venue for $5000 for 100-150 people. Is the courthouse plan out completely?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Talk to your fiancé and decide what to do “as a couple”. I hope things work out for you… 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I’m so sorry, that must be so frustrating.  I agree that you can consider a really simple inexpensive option (courthouse then backyard potluck or something).  If that isn’t on the table, hopefully you and your fiance can make it through the other side and have the wedding you want in the near future.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Hire a minister and a photographer and go to a beautiful landmark/park near your house and then go out to dinner afterwards with your immediate families ๐Ÿ™‚ Special. intimate and cheap!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

txprincess11 :  this sucks ๐Ÿ™ i know those times when it feels like everything is just going to crap. i’m sure it feels easier to just cancel, but i recommend just going super budget on everything. it can be easy to get sucked into the whole wedding thing and feel like you need to spend thousands of dollars, but you totally don’t.

honestly, the whole thing of regular income people blowing thousands on a wedding is new. my grandparents had a beautiful 60 year marriage. he was a tile layer and then went in the military and my grandma was a frugal housewife raising the kids. they got married in their pastor’s house wearing their best outfits. the rings were purchased from a pawn shop. when they talked about their wedding they would still get all starry eyed. they were so in love that nothing else mattered. 

there are a million ways to get married, and with all the stress you’ve had i think you deserve something fun and uplifting now more than ever! our tiny backyard wedding was lovely! courthouse weddings can also be wildly romantic. you in a fabulous dress, him looking handsome in a suit, and both of you pledging your lives together…sounds pretty good ๐Ÿ™‚ you can still be a gorgeous bride with her special day, because it’s the marriage that makes it special.

friends of mine are currently in the process of planning a super cheap park wedding. no venue necessary! afterward we’re all going to have tacos and burgers and walk around town celebrating. i can’t wait! 

i have zero regrets about working within my budget, and after the wedding we didn’t have to face the crushing realization that we’d spent too much. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

here’s some fun inspiration photos to boost your mood ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Courthouse weddings can be great! Have the reception is someone’s back yard, have BBQ, it doesn’t have to be expensive. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

mrshomemaker :  Yes! A more expensive wedding doesn’t say anything about whether the marriage is going to last.

My grandparents did their wedding at the courthouse followed by a dinner party for the families at home and are still married. Only their parents and siblings attended the reception dinner party.

My parents also did their wedding at the courthouse followed by a lunch for the families at a restaurant and were married until my dad passed on. They had 6 guests at their wedding.

Darling Husband and I did our wedding at a local park followed by a BBQ reception for us and our families. We had less than 20 people in attendance.

All of these weddings were beautiful and had so much heart and soul put into them. It’s not about the size or expense of the wedding day, it’s about the rest of your life.

txprincess11 :  I think you shouldn’t cancel unless you are so out of money that you can’t afford a marriage license. Life is too short not to be married to the one you love.

Either go to the courthouse or hire a minister and like a PP said, go to a park or a landmark. Hire a photographer for a couple of hours to take some nice photos. Then do whatever you want afterward, but remember that it doesn’t have to be expensive to be beautiful and fun.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

txprincess11 :   i understand your frustration! I have had the same issue I recently graduated school and just now got my license. i start working next week and Im freaking out because i feel like we wont have enough for our wedding. We’re actually contemplating cutting down the guestlist to just our closer friends and family! maybe something to consider? i hope all resolves itself! goodluck fellow bee. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Can you do something like Miranda did in Sex and the City when she married Steve?  She found a little park area in the center of town.  With her dress, the colors of the trees and the flowers she carried it turned out to be really nice.  In the TV wedding everyone was standing, no chairs.

 

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