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Ok, I was just diagonised with invasive breast cancer stage 3A..indentation in my left breast so we went to the dr.. and the rest is as you know. I have no history of cnace on either side so this is schocking and scared but I will survuve and I will fight .. This all started in July 2012 with a pain I had in my left breast which hubby and I thought was a pulled muecle then hubby saw an I had my first surgery which was the lympectomty, but that didnt remove all the cancer, I am now having my 2nd surgery Sept 4 for a full double mastecomery then I will have 8 months of chemo and then radation then I will under go reconstrutive surgery. I am looking at a year of recovery. My husband is my rock, I am currently recovering from my surgery Aug13th with a drain and stitches I can not really move my left side as they cut my left breast and removed my lymp noed under my arms because the cancer spread frommy breast to there.
My Hubby just said when this is all over he wants to renew our vows, I just broke down and cried, IS this normal to renewal vows we just celebrated 1 yr anniversary. I am crying as I type this. I dont know but I do kow I love him
Post # 3
I’m so sorry to hear that you have a rough year ahead!! Your husband sounds like such a sweet guy though, it is great that you have him to lean on!
As for a vow renewal… I don’t think there is “normal”? I certainly wouldn’t start planning one right now because it sounds like you have enough other stuff to worry about. But if you both wanted to do one after your treatment, it might be kind of a great victory party for you both! A recommitment of your vows to each other, even after living through a “for worse” situation!
Post # 4
@KevinsWife: Absolutely normal to renew vows! To do it after a year of recovery from cancer is one of the best reasons I can think of.
I’m so sorry that you are going through this, and I will be keeping you in my thoughts.
Post # 5
CorgiTales— oh yes, nothing will be planned or even done until after everything is well with me, I am not sure I want to celebrate something like being cancer free with a wedding.
Post # 6
Hey, fellow breast cancer stage 3A girl here! I was diagnosed back in January and I’m in the middle of treatment too. This cancer stuff sucks–there are too many bees on here who have been affected or know someone affected by this!
My husband and I are renewing our vows next year–we’ll have been married only three years by then. Originally when we got married, we had planned to renew 10 years down the road, but after all we’ve been through in the past nine months, it’ll be a perfect time to do it next year. And it gives me something else to think about besides cancer treatments! Wedding stuff is a very nice distraction!
If you have any questions or want to talk, feel free to message me. Unfortunately, I’ve kind of become an expert on breast cancer in the past nine months…but I’m beating it and so will you!