Post # 16
Fellow cancer patient here. You know when people say “you don’t understand unless you have been through it”? Well I think cancer and it’s treatment are one of those things.
A million kind hearted people can tell you that you are being silly for thinking these things but you are still going to think them. And they still won’t truely understand what it feels like.
Are you a member of a support group with fellow patients? I tell you they can be just the right medicine. Where you won’t feel judged for any of the dark thoughts (like wishing your kids would just go away and give you some peace) or for venting about family and friends that are trying to be helpful but really aren’t. You know all those thngs you can’t say out loud because you will seem ungrateful etc. there are even online groups if you need to physically stay isolated.
Cancer is hard. It sucks big balls. You have every right to be angry, upset, tired, frustrated and a million other thoughts/feelings. You just have to give yourself permission, which is easier said than done. Not living up to your usual life standards does not mean the cancer is winning. It is a common trap patients fall into, that if “normal” life stops it means they are losing the fight. Sometimes we have to be the tortoise to win the race. princessanon0125 :
Post # 17
Fuck cancer. You are a warrior! I’m sorry it’s been rough lately. Wishing you less pain and more peaceful days ahead!
Post # 18
You’re surviving cancer. You have every right to be crabby, bitchy, angry, sad, mad, or whatever you’re feeling, at the moment. Letting your emotions go wild is a good thing! It helps you get past the tough parts, and continue fighting. I admire your strength, and I hope you reach remission soon.
Post # 19
It is inspiring to see that you are doing your best to lead a normal life and I admire your strength. I really hope you make a full recovery very soon.
Post # 20
Sometimes being strong means giving yourself the grace to rest. There’s no shame in asking for help or taking extra time. Your first priority should be whatever it takes to heal. I can’t imagine what you’re going through but I think you’re being way too hard on yourself!
Post # 21
Recovering from cancer is not so much about fighting the cancer as submitting to the medical treatment. In order to give your body the time and space to recover from cancer treatment you need to have rest as and when you need it.
You have three teenage children and a husband. They can shop and cook when you are too tired to do so. Let them help you.
You have some emotionally and persistently needy relatives who are unwilling to accept that you are unable to support them in the usual way. Get your husband to lay down some very stern ground rules and if necessary to read them the riot act.
Have some thoughts on enjoyable things (however big or small) that you would like to do. Share them with your family.
Your illness does not make you any sort of burden. Cancer could happen to anyone at any time. Your responsibility is not to carry on as usual but to do everything in your power to recover.
So trust your children and husband.. Let your husband deal with the needy relatives, and think of some things you would like to do just for you.
Post # 22
You have NOTHING to apologize for. You are undergoing cancer treatment, which is probably one of the roughest things someone can go through. I commend your strength and I am sure your family does also. My love is with you.
Post # 23
I wish today that I had the energy to reply to everyone who has lifted me up. Unfortunately, I just dont. Darling Husband became concerned about the amount of pain Im in and we went back to the doctor yesterday and they have increased my pain meds. The upside is that I dont hurt as bad, downside is that Im just extremely tired and loopy.
To all the other bees who are fighting this horrible disease, no matter the type of cancer you have, I commend you for your spirit and your perserverance. I also thank you for lifting me up. I was about ready to throw a pity party and that just isnt me. I think the pain was just so bad it was making me cranky.
To the other bees who lifted me up with your messages of support I cant thank you enough for giving me a different perspective. I do need to rest, I do need to let people care for me when its needed. Im a power through kind of person, and being sick is not easy for me.
I sort of made a stupid promise years ago, one that now I know I couldnt have kept, never to be a burden to anyone after my first cancer diagnosis. Of course I had no idea then that I would be battling cancer again.
You all have been immensely supportive and I cant thank you enough. When Im lying in bed with no energy to get up, the boards give me something to look forward to.
Post # 24
just wanted to say I’m thinking of you and hope you’re feeling better today!
I’m sorry the pain meds make you feel loopy but glad to hear you’re getting some relief! You need a break you poor thing!
I’m also impressed by your pain tolerance and determination not to complain- I cry when I get papercuts lol! I don’t have half the strength you do.
You may not realize it but your posts are inspiring and reflect how strong and resilient you are! Don’t give up bee!
Post # 25
I’m so sorry to hear what you are going through! Stay strong. Battling cancer is a horrible thing and you have every right to be snappy and not very positive some days. Going through chemo and radiation absolutely saps the life out of you. It’s amazing that you are still working part-time and still trying to do things to make your family happy. They totally understand and know that you are not going to be yourself or 100% these days, so don’t be too hard on yourself as you have been through so much already and are still going through a lot. I hope this will all be behind you soon and you can enjoy life more again and feel better.