(Closed) Candle ceremony for a child that is OURS

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@FortiesFlare:  how about unity sand instead? you each can choose a color and than are all combined into one jar? or try making your own unity candle that way you can personalize it and have 3 of the skinnnier candles instead of only 2?

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Could he be your husbands ‘little’ best man? I went to a wedding recently and they were in the same position and the groom had his son standing right next to him. He had the rings and got to play a part in the ceremony.

If you really want some kind of act then I think the sand is a great option.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

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Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

.fdgfds fdss

 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

What about having him do the role that the moms typically have of lighting the 2 family candles?

 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@FortiesFlare:  In terms of the wording, what about something along the lines of “formalising/celebrating what we’ve always known in our hearts, our union as a family”?

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Well, he  is already united to each of you.  Now he will be present when the officiant legally unites you and your Fiance. 

Perhaps there is some role he could play in “assisting” the officiant — helping to unite his parents?

For example:

Officiant:  “Do you, __________________ take ______________ to be your …”
Son: “Do you, Daddy, take Mommy … “

And then do the same for Mommy taking Daddy?

Just a thought. 🙂

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with PPs.  On the latest episode of Teen mom2 (yeah I know, guilty pleasue, shoot me) Leah got married and I thought it was the sweetest thing ever how they did the sand ceremony and what the officiant said to go along with it.  I think you watch the clip somewhere in thie episode:

http://www.mtv.com/videos/teen-mom-2-season-4-ep-10-for-love-and-money/1705703/playlist.jhtml#series=2211&seriesId=34714&channelId=1

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wanted to do something similar but dd is too young (4yrs) for candle ceremony, didn’t want to do sand & she’s the fg so can’t be moh. Our officiant actually had the idea of him addressing her, something along the lines of “A lot of promises have been made between your mommy & daddy, these promises are also to you to be a loving family etc..”. I forget the exact wording but you get it, we are presenting her with a gift during this. We aren’t telling our parents, I know my dads going to cry. He’s a sap when it comes to her lol <3 Since your son is older it might be cool to have him read something.

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