Post # 1
My Fiance and I decided that we didn’t want to spend an extreme amount of money on cake (especially since he doesn’t eat it). We talked about doing a candy bar, and my mom really wants us to do a dessert bar…she talked about her baking, my grandmother, and aunt all baking. Only problem with that is, my family all lives in Nor Cal, and we live/are getting married in So Cal. I mentioned it to the Fiance and he was against asking my family to bake as well as asking his family to help. We live in an apartment, so even if I wanted to tell my mom she could bake at our place, there isn’t room for much. Now my mom is pushing me to do the dessert bar and making me feel bad about how “everyone” was excited to get to help. What should I do? Help!
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@hazyleyedbeauty: There is a difference between asking your family to do this and them offering to do it for you. It would only be an issue if the desserts need to be refrigerated and there is nowhere to do that prior to the wedding.
Post # 4
I agree with PP re: refridgeration (and transportation). I like dessert bars and had one at my wedding, but most desserts need refridgeration (aside from cookies). Transporting tiny desserts can also be tricky. Our caterer actually sent a pastry chef to our wedding (not normally done) to deal with our dessert bar and our alternative wedding cake.
Post # 5
@hazyleyedbeauty: I think that if they’d like to help then let them bring over what they can including the trays, etc. and just have the candy bar as a plus. This way if something happens to the desserts then you alway have the candy bar and if not, then you just got both things.