(Closed) Candy on the tables? Is this a thing?

posted 8 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i don’t think that’s a thing? we were at a non-Jewish wedding 2 weeks ago and they had mints on the table, but we didn’t have candy at our Jewish wedding, and I don’t think there was at all the other weddings we’ve gone to in the past few years, most of which were Jewish…including both Orthodox and Reform weddings…if it’s in your budget, it could be a nice touch, but from my experience I don’t think it’s an explicit, necessary tradition at all. though if she’s insisting on it, it could be worth it to just appease her 😉

for what it’s worth, my grandparents always had candy dishes out in their house–maybe it’s a generational thing that used to be a standard?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Mostly all weddings I’ve been to have been Jewish weddings, and I’ve never seen that…that being said, there’s nothing wrong with starting new traditions, or continuing old non-Jewish specific ones.  🙂 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

Just wanted to weigh in and say i am pretty certain that it’s not a “thing” at Jewish weddings – I have never seen or heard of it as a tradtion – just something people may want to do from time to time based on their own desire, and not religion!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I don’t think it’s a Jewish thing… so much as a way to provide candy favors to guests. We had all of our candy on the table with the grooms cake…. which I wish we had spread out on the tables, because we had so much left! oh well…

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve never been to a Jewish wedding, but I have heard about this being done at some weddings. In particular, someone told me about it when I was telling them about our candy buffet- They said how they had been at a wedding where there was a candy dish on each table for the guests to snack on until the bridal party arrived. 

What I have seen more often is the couple gives out candy or some other food item as favors, so there will be a little bag/box/tin of candy at each seat. In the midwest this is done a lot, because it’s a cheaper favor and nobody keeps favors like candles, matchbooks, or keychains anyway. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I haven’t seen this at a  wedding, but the last Bar Mitzvah I went to had pretty dishes of candies and votive candles instead of flowers as centerpieces.  I loved it: it was festive and pretty.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I never seen at a jewish wedding, but I also remember throwing candy at a girl when she had her Bat Mitzvah.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have never seen this before and am a practicing Jew. Sometimes, at the aufruf, the congregants “shower the couple with sweetness” and throw candy at them, but this is not at the wedding, it’s at the last Shabbat *before* the wedding.

 

But it could be cute if you want to do it, just not Jewish.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

sorry. double post

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

i have to disagree– I think it may be a jewish thing. At every jewish wedding i’ve been to, there was lots of candy on the tables. I have a feeling it may be related to the idea of an auf ruf, which is a religious event at the end of which people throw candy at the groom. It’s not practiced so much amongst reform jews, but the candy on the table might be a nod to that.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I haven’t been to a Jewish wedding, but I have been to wedding that have candy and nuts on the tables.  They are placed there for the guests to enjoy throughout the evening.  Sometimes, they are like the appetizer… something little to nibble on while waiting to eat, other times, they are the after dinner snack, and if the food is terrible  (Sadly, I’ve seen this… and it was a very expensive location…the little snacks become the food most liked by the guests!)    I have a feeling it’s a regional or local cultural tradition… like Pittsburgh’s cookie table!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

candy is a tradition at the auf ruf, but that’s on shabbos, not on the wedding day.

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