Post # 108
I didn’t read all of the replies but I am surprised by how many people would be upset by a budget of $1000. When we got engaged my fiancé had a budget of $1700 for my ring. I never one time resented her for that – and we were both “older” and established at that time. I just took the number at face value and researched my heart out to see what my options were! It was fun to get creative. Finally, six years after the proposal, we were in a position to jointly pay for the luxury purchase that was a larger stone for me. FWIW her priorities are different and she has not altered her original $1400 ring or replaced it. But she is holding out for a Rolex one day so really – engagement ring prices don’t mean anything!
Post # 109
If OP isn’t going to come back, then I don’t see any point in the rest of us mulling over solutions that have been talked to death here. Are you out there OP?
Post # 110
So my SO and I had LONG discussions about how much a ring should cost. It helped a ton taking him into a store and letting him feel the difference of a cheaper ring (not as well made), compared to one very well made.
Right now it sounds like a communication issue out the wazoo. Does he now how important this is to you? Have you said this is important to me?
Have you tried approaching this in a way that it’s very important you love the ring you wear for the rest of your life? What type of ring do you want? A solitaire with a mined diamond at a certain carat and cut? A halo pave three stone band? Etc. Start with what you want and then start looking at prices.
If there was a 1000 ring you LOVED, I would of course be supportive of it! But it sounds like you’ve been looking in that price range and haven’t found something you love. Figure out what you love and then start shopping for a deal. My SO and I built our dream ring, and came to terms with our budget. We then switched over to looking for how to find it and ended up going to a wholesale jeweler. We spent 60% of what we were planning on spending. So if our budget was 10k, we only spent 6k. These are fake numbers but you get the idea.
Post # 111
Just my 2 cents…you agreed on becoming engaged in an informal setting. It’s not like he surprised you with a ring that was not to your liking.
Since it wasn’t really a gift he surprised you with, I don’t see why you couldn’t help pay for the ring you want. I ended up technically paying for my wedding band that I had made. My mom and I turned in some old gold jewelry for store credit at her jeweler which more than covered the cost of the band.
In my mind, the bigger issue is whether you both will be on the same page with other things and something like this is only the tip of the iceberg of issues that will arise.
If you’re not willing to chip in and he’s not willing to budge on price, maybe you could upgrade in a few years for an anniversary or something?