Post # 1
There are no little girls (between ages of 3-6) in either my family or fiances family, I don’t think Im going to have a flowergirl.
We cannot find one. Lol. We have a ring bearer .. and theres a couple boys in the family who are young, but no girls.
The only girl is like 2 months old.
Post # 3
lol I have two, want to borrow one? They’re both only 2, so we’ll see how it turns out though! I, on the other hand, have no ring bearer! It’s not like you HAVE to have them. You can have an extra ring bearer if you wanted.
Post # 4
We are having both of our nephews be ring bearers, and not having a flower girl. I think it’s more about having special people in your wedding party, than filling the traditional roles. I’ve been to several weddings where there were neither flower girls, or ring bearers; I wouldn’t worry!
Post # 5
How about a friend of the family’s child?
I’m lucky to have a few good friends with adorable little girls and T’s daughter is getting ready to turn four. She’d be the "chief" flower girl! She’s adorable and I always buy her cute stuff..she’s precious beyond belief!
I also have a coworker who has a 3 year old. Adorable little precious cutie! How about coworkers or family friends?
Post # 6
I wouldn’t put too much stress on the issue. I’ve been to weddings where there were no flower girls, I don’t think anyone even noticed. It isn’t a necessity, but if you really want to have one, did you go through your guest list and see if any friends have a young daughter?
Post # 7
I would forget about it. Not only do you have to find a little girl, you have to find the right little girl. A lot of kids really aren’t the type to be pushed down the aisle at that age. Some you may have to drag out of the way of the bride!
Do you really want to ask your friend to bring her three year old to your wedding to have her freak out in fright?
No one will notice and the wedding will run much smoother.
Post # 8
I’m with ac-ny: no flower girl!
Post # 9
I agree, you don’t have to have one. Maybe it’s a good thing because it will be one less stressor!
Post # 10
Yep..no need for one really.
And when my son was a ring bearer? What did he do? He saw the bright lights flick on (videographer) and he promptly turned around completely and walked back UP the aisle and refused to come back down..rings were tied to the pillow and everything!
One less thing to go wrong! Your wedding will be gorgeous and reflect your style and design. Nobody will think a thing except how lovely you are and truly enjoy the day!
Post # 11
How about having a junior bridesmaid? Not to throw petals on the aisle, but sometimes it’s nice to be able to include younger family members.
Have you considered friends or friends of friends? My daughter was in a wedding last fall for a girl who I knew vaguely, but had friends who knew her well. I had offered to her that if she was in need of a flowergirl or ringbearer, that my twins were available if she needed her & not to be shy about asking. She said she’d keep it in mind and ended up asking me a couple of weeks later if I was serious and if so, she’d like to take me up on the offer-it was adorable! 🙂
Post # 12
Do you have to have children be the ring bearer or flower girl? What about having friends? I have a couple friends that, although in their 20s, would get a kick out of being the ring bearer and flower girl.
Post # 13
I was in the same situation – ton of boys in our family and no girls! We ended up having a boy from each side be the ring bearers. And of course, 2 girls come into our family right around the wedding… just our luck!
Post # 14
We don’t have a flower girl or ring bearer. We don’t really have little kids in our families. I don’t think I want them anyway. It’ll be cute, but more expenses you know? So unless my mom and his mom have something against it (and can recruit & pay for the expenses), we’re NOT having either!
Post # 15
I’ve been to lots of weddings where there were no kids included in the wedding. The absence of a flower girl and/or ringbearer will likely go unnoticed. Don’t feel obligated to find children to play a part in your big day. They should only be included if they’re close to either the bride or groom.
Post # 16
I might be biased, because I chose to not have a flower girl, but I think you should just go without. Personally, I think everyone in the wedding party should be close to the bride and/or groom. You wouldn’t pick some random girl to be a bridesmaid, so don’t pick some random girl to be a flower girl!