Post # 1
This is my first post on these boards.
I purchased my dress in July 2014 (my wedding is in June 2015), after going to a number of salons (Including Kleinfelds Canada) looking for something with sleeves for my jewish wedding. My stepmother said I better buy something that already had sleeves instead of having them added on because I get too anxious not knowing what things will look like.
I am getting married at the Trump hotel which was not planned but it surprisingly worked best for our small guest count (40 guests) and budget. Originally I wanted to do an elopement with about 10 people and then go to a restaurant.
I liked this dress better than all the other ones I tried and kept thinking about it and went back for it when my in laws and sister were in town to come with me. I loved it but even at the time I kept asking them if they were sure it didn’t look like a nightgown. Everyone said no.
At first I was fine but over the past few months I get extreme anxiety and fear when I think about the dress. Additionally, I have been sick for about 2 years but things got worse about a month aftewr buying the dress and I am quite emaciated now so when I went back to try it on I felt like I looked too skinny and wanted to cry.
My fears are as follows:
1) The material is too thin and night-gown-y
2) It’s not formal enough for the Trump
3) You only get to wear something sparkly and fancy once in your life, is mine too plain?
4) Should I have picked something different and just added sleeves?
5) I kind of wanted longer sleeves but everyone said they were too old lady-ish and I was happy that this dress had short sleeves instead of just cap sleeves which is most of what was available. Did I pick it just for the sleeves?
The fear I get when I think about my dress almost hurts I’m so frightened. Please help, Should I try and get a new one with 5 months to go?
(Keep i mind that is not my veil, my veil has a blusher, that was just to try in-store with the dress)
Post # 2
You look absolutely gorgeous!! It’s totally normal to panic about your dress at some point. It is beautiful though so try not to stress!
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2016 - Rockfield Manor - Bel Air, MD
For what it’s worth, I think your dress is gorgeous and you look stunning in it.
Post # 4
Based on what you wrote, I was expecting something awful. My honest opinion is you look great and the dress does not bring to mind a nightgown.
Post # 5
Take a deep breath. The dress is gorgeous! It will look amazing at the Trump Hotel . . the sleeves are perfect. It does not look like a nightgown. You do not look emaciated.
It’s normal to panic about your dress after buying it.
Post # 6
The dress looks stunning on you. The lace is beautiful – “traditional” comes to mind but “casual” or “nightgowny” definitely does not.
If you are looking to jazz it up a bit maybe get a belt that you really like. Changing the dress would be a waste because this one is so beautiful on you.
Post # 7
Your dress is amazing! So so classy and it looks nothing at all like a nightgown! Its actually the type of dress I want for my own wedding. I think its normal to get a little dress stress but dont let it get to you, you look beautiful in that dress!
Post # 8
I love it! I think it looks great on you and doesn’t look anything like a nightgown. Have you been able to try it on at all to make sure how you feel in it? When I start to feel unsure about my dress I put it on and all my worries go away. Try it on a few different times, maybe with your hair and make up done like how you’d want it for the wedding so you can really get an idea. If you’re still unsure, you could always search for a different one. But In My Humble Opinion, it looks beautiful!
Post # 9
Thank you all for the positive reinforcement!!!!
I put it on again at about 10lbs lighter than there! I’m 5’9 and close to 100lbs now I was 110 when I bought it. I’ve been working hard so I think i gained back one or 2 pounds but I was pretty much at the skinniest I should be at 110. Because I’m so skinny when I tried it on I was panicked…..
Because of my fear of the lack of sparkle I tried switching the belt but my stepmom said the one I picked initially (as seen in photo) was the best one…..
Does it need more sparkle? Is it too plain???
Post # 10
Oh! and my actual belt is ivory not blush like in the photo so it’s ivory on ivory. I’m tryin git on again on Saturday becaus emy veil came in so I’m trying not to panic too much until then.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook
Your dress is beautiful and timeless. Not a nightgown at all! If you’re worried about the shape, maybe add a petticoat for a bit more fullness?
As for sparkle, you could change the sash out for something more sparkly (if you want something different than what others want, go for it!) and add some earrings and a bracelet. You could also have some clear sequins added to the lace for some subtle sparkle when the light hits it.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook
Oh, and your dress also reminds me of Charlotte’s on Sex in the City. Another gorgeous Jewish bride 🙂
Post # 13
if you’d like a little more volume, you could always try adding a crinoline to pump up the skirt a little!
Post # 14
@peonylove Does it need more volume?
Does it need another belt (this one was pricey but I’ll pay anything to feel better)?
Does it need to be ‘jazzed up?’
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2019 - Canada
kanlink: Wow, from your description I was not expecting the dress you posted. I definitely do not think “nightgown” or “casual” when looking at your dress, its beautiful!!! I think you need to just take a deep breath and know that this is a gorgeous dress, you dont look too skinny or like you’re swimming in it. I like fuller skirts, so I’d try a crinoline under it, a little volume might make you feel less skinny (it might make you look smaller though, so be prepared to not like it!) I also love bling, so I’d add a more blingy sash. I dont think you have anything to worry about though, I think you’ll look incredible!