Post # 1
Well most likely no mini-moon. My fiance just started working full time this past August so it’s taken us this long to get everything sorted out right with our bills as well as get organized and saving for the wedding. Unfortunately we have car issues and will need to save a down payment for a new car…Plus he really doesnt have vacation time until August anyway so we are SOL for a honeymoon.
I’m kind of depressed about it. I can’t really picture myself wanting to right back to work…or even back to regular life. I’m hoping I can save up a little extra for us to be able to go somewhere nearby for a couple nights after the wedding but I’m really not sure about that.
I know we WILL go somewhere…but it just sucks to go back to regular life right after the wedding. Blahhhh.
Anyone else go through this?
Post # 3
We’re not going to be able to go on a “honeymoon” for like, a YEAR after the wedding. By then, i don’t think you can call it so much a honeymoon as a vacation!
Now, for us that’s because we’re saving for a downpayment on a house and really, when you think about it, it’s not a bad life to say that you can’t have a honeymoon because you’re saving for a house. And not, to make you feel bad or anything, but it’s not so bad to postpone a honeymoon because you’re going to get a new car!
But I understand. I would at the very least spring for a great hotel for the wedding NIGHT and plan something fun for the following day–like a great dinner out or a basketball game or spa time or whatever floats your fancy so you can unwind. Our “honeymoon” was a really nice hotel and huge burgers and milkshakes from our favorite fast-food takeout place. Seriously–and it was great! There is something to be said for alleviating yourself of the pressure of travel right after you’ve gone through the stress of a wedding (plus, honeymooners are oftentimes really tired the first day or two on honeymoon, which is fine if you just want to relax on the beach, but there’s something to be said for being up and ready to go!) You can also use the time after the wedding to plan a really kickass vacation and save up so that you can go further and/or longer than you might have been able to on a honeymoon.
Post # 4
Sorry you are feeling down. We won’t be going on our honeymoon until September, and I’m a little sad about that, too. But…we DO hate travelling during busy times, and our wedding is in the middle of spring break times and so I’m using that to make me feel better.
Hopefully you all can at least take the Monday after the wedding off and spend it together being hedonistic.
Does anyone in your family travel a lot for business? If so, they may have a ton of hotel points and might be willing to put you up in a local hotel for a night or two in lieu of a gift. Otherwise, see about using priceline to get a good deal on a local place. I bet just one night in a fancy hotel and you will feel much better!
Post # 5
What about one of those Honeymoon Registries? Maybe you could use that for some weekend trips.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club
Awe, I know how frustrating that can be, trust me!
Mr. Buttons started a new job a few months before our wedding, so we had to cancel our honeymoon because he hadn’t been there long enough to earn time off. So…we just stayed at a nice hotel the night of our wedding, then returned to our apartment the following day.
It has ben 8 months now, and we still don’t have one planned yet! We are in the process, but since we have a few weddings to attend this spring/a few other trips, we can’t make a honeymoon happen until the fall…a year and a half after our wedding day. It is frustrating and it makes me sad, but we’re trying to put a positive spin on it.
We figure: since we are waiting a year and a half to take the honeymoon, that means that we have time to save up and go on an even nicer one than we had planned originally…and perhaps go for a longer amount of time. With all of the expenses surrounding a wedding, we realized that it was also much better on our checkbook.
I hope you guys are able to plan a great trip when you can!
Post # 7
Are you guys able to stay in a nice hotel the night of the wedding or something? Darling Husband and I probably will never be able to afford a “honeymoon,” so that’s what we did It wasn’t outrageously expensive, but it was wonderful.
Post # 8
We won’t be going on our honeymoon until probably next year. My fiance’s work shuts down 2 weeks in summer and 1 week for Christmas and because of that we pretty much have to plan anything around those times if we are going to miss more than 1 day of work.
Post # 9
I made a reservation at a hotel in town, but now I’m considering making a reservation a little farther from home in Richmond so we can at least spend the day Sunday and maybe Monday out there.
It does make me feel better that others are in the same boat…not that I’m glad you guys can’t go on honeymoons lol. It sucks when people ask where we’re going and I give them a blank look and I just say Uhhh I don’t know yet.
My dad tried to tell me to scrap our wedding plans and just take a big honeymoon and do a JOP type thing but the way I see it we can go on a vacation another time but not have a wedding…
Thanks for the support bees 🙂
Post # 10
That’s OK! Just be in married bliss! We’re getting married in May 12, 2012 and we’re not honeymooning until October 2012.
Post # 11
We arent either and it totally suckcs because we requested two weeks off of work 🙁 Things came up and now we have no money. We are hoping to be able to put something together with any money we get from the wedding but if not we’ll probably do something small like Disneyland.
Post # 12
Don’t worry! We don’t even want a honeymoon right after. Too much pressure and we want to look forward to both things independently.
Our main reason is that we want to hang out with our guests afterwards. They will have all traveled to see us and we can’t wait to show them around!!!
Post # 13
I feel ya! We’re really debating on this same topic… I really want to go on a honeymoon right after the wedding but Fiance isn’t overly sold on the idea of spending another 3k right away. I know I’d survive if we waited a few months or even a year but I don’t want to miss out on that “honeymoon vibe” and have it be more like a normal vacation (which we have never gone on together either, but still). ….Just know that you’re not alone! Times are tough for many of us and budgets are tight. Good luck!!!
Post # 14
Why not spend Sunday/Monday in the OBX?
Post # 15
I feel you.
We can afford a honeymoon, but we don’t have the vacation days to take one!
The wedding will take up all our vacation days for the year, so we have to wait until 2012 for our honeymoon.
I’m just looking at it as something else to look forward to and our first big married trip.
Also, I’ve heard many people are exhausted right after the wedding and it’s hard to enjoy the first day or two of the honeymoon because you are just too tired.
I’m looking forward to extending our “wedding” by having the wedding in September and then a honeymoon a few months later.
Post # 16
We got married in October and are not honeymooning til this February….and not even because we couldn’t afford it at the time, but because we are lazy! I was sad to go back to work right after the wedding and wished I went on a honeymoon then, but now I am excited about our impending honeymoon. If you wait to go on the honeymoon, it will give you something to be excited about once all of the wedding hubbub is over.