(Closed) Can't Afford to Serve a Full Supper

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

just to show you some ideas of displays:

These are pictures from my sister bday party. The only thing we purchased for the table display were the table cloths to cover the risers. The risers were bowls turn upside down, sturdy boxes, basically anything that would hold the dishes

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If the date means so much to you, I would either have a private ceremony on Wednesday and have the party on the following Friday or Saturday, or I would move everything to start at around ~7pm. That would give everyone (hopefully) enough time to get off from work and get to the ceremony. If you do the later time, you could definitely get away with just doing desserts and/or appetizers. Ceremony: 7-7:30 with appetizers and/or desserts to follow. Are you planning on serving alcohol?

The type of food you’re serving wouldn’t bother me, but it would be frustrating to me to have to take a half day off from work just because you wanted to have the wedding on a Wednesday.

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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@JessicaJupiter  That makes sense then. Fiance and I decided to have a long engagement and wait 2 years for our date, it’ll be 6 years at that point. We have a lot more people traveling, though.  If it’s just your parents, I can’t imagine they’d miss because of the timing. With that clarification, I think it sounds great. I also agree with PPs about doing light refreshments instead of the meal you have planned. Maybe in the evening you can spread the word that you’ll be going out to dinner at X restaurant if anyone wants to join, feel free.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@JessicaJupiter  i don’t know if someone mentioned this, but someone i know just had a dessert reception. they were on a tight budget, too!  good luck!!!

Post # 36
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Have you looked into booking a private room at a restaurant? It seems like that would be the most affordable option. Or, I would change the time of the wedding so that it could be a dessert or appitizer reception.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@mixtapehearts  +1

I read your other thread, and no one was attacking you. I definitely suggest what someone above did; have your ceremony during the week and then the reception on the weekend to allow more flexibility.

Post # 38
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307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@JessicaJupiter  Jessica, I’m so sorry that you received such a bad reception on the Knot. In my experience, I have found that the Bee is a little more accepting of these sorts of things. (That said, be warned that even here on the Bee, it’s not exactly rainbows and unicorns.)

At the end of the day, whether you are serving salad and lasagna buffet style or serving a five course plated meal, those who are celebrating with you will be there because they love you.

My motto is: do what you can with what you’ve got. There will always be people (friends or internte strangers) who expect more than what you can manage. Own your awesome reception, friend!

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I just read the thread on the other forum, and I have to say, you got a lot of good advice there. It was actually one of the “nicer” threads I’ve seen over there.

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If this were my wedding, and my budget, I’d move the reception time a bit earlier in the day and make it a ‘lunchtime” meal.  The amount of food you’ve described sounds just fine.

Anyone who is really important to you can surely take a 1/2 vacation day to leave work at 12:00 and make it to your ceremony for 1:00.  If they’re not willing to do that, then are you sure you really want this person at your wedding?

I think a big downfall with weddings these days is that everyone is killing themselves trying to create a Pintrest-worthy, Style Me Pretty – event of the year on a tiny budget. It’s super stressful, and just not worth it.

Stop worrying about what everyone else will think of your wedding, make it whatever you want it to be, feed and greet your guests warmly, and have a good time.  Blogsphere be damned.

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@JessicaJupiter  Here’s a bunch of @JessicaJupiter that you can make in the crock pot for hot drinks- cocoa, ciders, mulled wine, etc. Maybe borrow crock pots from family members/friends and do a “warm drink” station? I’m sure the hot chocolates have the same basic ingredients, so maybe a bulk shopping place could cut costs?

 

 

Post # 42
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2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

at that time, I would not do a meal. it’s awkward timing. if you just had lunch you will not be hungry. people might have made dinner plans. i would do a dessert reception with some savory options. it’ll also be cheaper.

Post # 43
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6261 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Would it be possible to get legally married at the town clerk’s office, and then have a friend do a meaningful but not legal ceremony of your choice for you and your guests at your wedding? That may be cheaper if it is an option.

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You’re having a small afternoon wedding, so I don’t think anyone will expect a sit-down meal. Appetizers, sandwiches, pasta salad, etc. all sounds fine to me! I wouldn’t even bother with lasagne. You could also do a bbq, or a “cocktail reception” or “cake & punch” reception. I really really like julies1949 ‘s afternoon tea idea a lot too!


You’re going to get alot of flack for having it on a Wednesday, but if the date is your non-negotiable then just realize that not everyone’s going to be able to make it, & don’t get upset if people have to work. Financial hardship is no way to start a marriage, so ignore anyone who pushes you to spend more, and stay true to yourselves. $ doesn’t make a wedding great, it’s the attitude of the bride & groom that does : ) Good luck!

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@JessicaJupiter  I really like the idea of cake and punch or a high tea reception. Sometimes having little amounts of lots of choices doesn’t look as nice or feel as special as we’d like it to. Instead, by offering a lot of a few really great choices, you simplify your menu and create a more luxe atmosphere.

You can totally do this!

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

A lot of the previous suggestions are good- cocktail or afternoon tea receptions. I would also be happy with the meal you suggested- I went to a wedding this summer where they served pizza and salad only!

I also think a dessert reception is a cool idea, and could eliminate the need for guests to take time off of work. If you had the ceremony at 7:30, guests could eat dinner before coming, and then you could serve cake, other desserts (cookies, mousse, etc) and beverages afterwards!

As ThisTimeRound said, it’s all about the timing. Just don’t schedule your reception to cover a meal time and make it clear on your invitations what the deal is (e.g. “Dinner and dancing to follow” “Afternoon tea reception” “Light refreshments” “Cocktail reception” etc.).

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