(Closed) Can't Afford to Serve a Full Supper

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 62
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@JessicaJupiter:  

Hi

I am having a 2 pm ceremony followed by an afternoon tea reception for about 60 people and the quotes I have received so far have been very very reasonable. That is for scones, cake, little sandwiches – little pretty things on pretty plates.

We are having it buffet style in the gardens outside the chapel and hiring a coffee truck. Like some other people have already mentioned, as long as you time it so that your reception will not take place during an expected proper meal time and you mention what you are serving in your invitations i.e afternoon tea, or a light meal will be served following the ceremony so that your guests are prepared then it is perfectly acceptable.

Good luck 🙂

Post # 63
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

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@This Time Round:  Dang! Good catch with Thanksgiving TTR! You are always saving the day! Just wanted to express my admiration. I hope you’re still hanging around when I finally get to serious planning!

Post # 64
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@julies1949:  +1 Afternoon tea makes a lot of sense and should indicate to guests not to expect dinner.

OP I see you are in Canada.  From what I remember M&M meatshops had a lot of party food and it is reasonably priced.  Also no one ever turns their nose up at President’s Choice 🙂

Post # 65
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Even though it’s a fairly early time of day, many of your guests will have been working all day and might not get home till 7-8 PM or later. That’s a long long time after lunch. Don’t go too light on the food just because it’s a 3:00 ish start time. It being a weekday gives guests less flexibility in when they’ll eat lunch, and really you don’t want people’s first memory of your wedding to be just about how hungry they were.

a couple of weekends ago I went to a lovely wedding at a gorgeous historic inn. The whole event must have cost the bride’s parents a small fortune. We traveled, woke up early to complete our journey, had a fairly early lunch. A full dinner was served at dinner time. Excellent food, but very small portions. They must have spent over $50k on that wedding, and I can’t stop remembering how hungry I was when I went to bed 🙁

Post # 66
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hi! I know what youère talking about with the knot, they all got inredibly upset because I wanted to have a morning wedding (which turned out beautiful!)

While planning my wedding, I talked a lot to my mom about hers. She and my dad both come from very poor families, and so had almost no money to spend on their wedding. They had a Saturday midday wedding, but for their reception they just had build-your-sandwich type food, in the basement of a very ugly little church. But everyone enjoyed themselves, and were happy to celebrate their marraige. The wedding industry has changed a lot in the last 25 years, but honestly to me that is still the most important part, not spending more than you can afford on your guests. And the food youre planning sounds great!

Your wedding is definitely on a day that will be a bit awkward, but since you said 30 people I assume that theyre your closest friends and family. I would have no problem at all taking a day off for someone that close to me!

Im sure your wedding will be fabulous!

Post # 67
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Busy bee

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@JessicaJupiter:  fair enough. If it would work for you two, is there a non-denominational Christian church close to you that could work?

Post # 68
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145 posts
Blushing bee

@JessicaJupiter:  I went to my friend’s lovely wedding and she served cookies and punches. She avoided meal time. I was happy at the wedding and we’re still good friends. I don’t know what to say. My another friend served cake and punch at her wedding because she couldn’t afford meal. She has a wonderful marriage and friends.

I think your plan sounds wonderful and it’s truthfully hard for me to believe you got such reponses.

Post # 69
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I see that your question is not “what should I do differently?” but rather “would you attend and appreciate the wedding I’ve outlined?” 

Since it’s going to be a small wedding, I’m assuming you would be only inviting your closest family and friends. So if I were one of these folks, I would make every attempt possible to be there. Fortunately my job is flexible, I’d either have to take a half or full day off, but I have the time to spare. I know that’s not the case for many people. The food options I think are more than enough for a late afternoon reception. I would expect light refreshments, but you are prepared to serve a full lasagna dinner, and that’s great. 

If you do end up with fewer guests, and opt for a restaurant dinner, that would be just fine too.

 

Post # 70
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I didn’t read all the comments above so I apologize if there is a reason why you can’t do the reception later in the day that I missed, but this is a good meal. It’s the sort of dinner you look forward to have at home or at a friend’s. Anyone who is too snobby to recognize that can shove it.

Post # 71
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2997 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think your food choices are great. People are so crazy about wedding food for no reason. It’s one night, you don’t need to blow your whole life savings on feeding the hungry clan! I will agree with some others that have posted and would move the time to around 5:00 or 5:30pm to really bring home the “evening wedding” effect. Either way….no matter what time it was at or what you were serving, I would be there with bells on.

 

Post # 72
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Blushing bee

I love the idea of an afternoon ceremony with an afternoon tea/appetisers/cake and champagne afterwards. I don’t believe anyone would be looking for a full meal and will be home for dinner. My mother self catered for her own wedding with 15 guests and I hardly ate anything because I was just enjoying myself so much. It’s not all about the food!

Post # 73
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@JessicaJupiter: What are your expectations for the wedding? Because in one of your replies in this thread you said that you wanted money to have movable music system or something like that so people could dance? I just ask because I don’t think your vision is going to line up to relaity.

At a wedding reception that starts at around 4pm and is serving apps I would think that guests are going to be less inclinded to dance.

I agree with pps. I think your choices are to either move the wedding to another day, or move the time of the wedding to start later.

 

Post # 74
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@MissNoodles:  I get really annoyed when people say things like you did. Sorry but sometimes people cannot come to your wedding especially when you plan it in the middle of the week on a work day. It does not mean they don’t love you, it just means that they can’t make your wedding.

Brides who say things like that come off In My Humble Opinion as self centred and entitled.

Post # 75
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@JessicaJupiter:  I dont know if this has been asked (I didnt feel like reading everything) but have you looked into restaurants? A lot of them cater, though they dont show up on searches on wedding sites for caterers. We’ve found some really cheap options that way. Try looking at deli cafes, small Italian restaurants, taco places, ect. 

But if you do decide to go the route of cooking it yourself, I think thats enough food for a small wedding.

Post # 76
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Welcome !! Well, first and foremost, regardless of what anyone else has to say about anything….IT’S YOUR DAY! You do what you want and what you can afford. If they don’t like what you are serving or not serving…..They don’t have to come! I hope you find a solution love!!

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