(Closed) can't afford wedding!!!!

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 16
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Blushing bee

What kind of job do you have that’s low paying but gives a $15k bonus??

 

 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

Do you want a party or a marriage?

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

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midnightsnow :  I’ve got a friend who is in commission sales.  Without her bonuses, she makes federal minimum wage.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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midnightsnow :  My fiancé was a dispatcher before we started our company and that’s how his job paid.  He received quarterly bonuses based on team performance (trucking industry) but despite college educations they all only made about 35k a year.  It’s not that uncommon!  His pay structure changed too and that’s why he left to start his own company, wasn’t fair to change that bonus when it’s considered part of your income.  :/

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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futuremagikarp :  I would definitely see where you can cut back on some things before cancelling. As far as flowers, you can go to a sams club, walmart, or costco get a bunch for cheap and make your own. For a photographer, my Darling Husband and I paid for, but in the end the Bridesmaid or Best Man and GM’s moms took pics for us and video. They actually captured better moments of my Darling Husband and I than the photographer did! I would see if you have someone that wouldn’t mind doing that for you. They used their cell phones, so it wasnt anything extravagant,  but they turned out great. For alcohol, we put what we could down and then it turned into a cash bar. We had a very small wedding (40 guests), so if you havent sent out invites, maybe you could cut the guest list some? Invites, Sams club has great packages, some for less than 100.00. They include RSVP’s, invites, etc and you can customize what you dont want. As far as your dress,  I would see if the place that you go to can make payment arrangements. Most do. I wish you a lot of luck, my Darling Husband were on a strict budget and had to pay for most of our wedding and I wasnt working, d/t I was finishing my nursing degree. It definitely is doable, you just have to see where things can be cut. We also made our iwn centerpieces and decorations. That saved us a ton of money! Good luck!

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

$4000 for just those items?! Dang! Our whole wedding is turning out to cost about $6,500 for about 120 people and we’re paying for it all ourselves. There are cheaper options out there. A photographer who needs experience, Trader Joes value wine (that is still very good) – we are just doing a few selections of wine, beer, and then lemonade and water. My dress I got from a charity program – it’s a Maggie Sottero and I just had to donate a minimum of $50 to charity (although I donated more).

If you want this wedding, put your mind to it and you can find affordable alternatives. Good luck and congrats!

Post # 22
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Busy bee

I’m going to probably be in the minority on this one, but I say cancel and elope. Do something romantic, get a nice dress, take pretty pictures. You’ll breathe a huge sigh of relief but still have wonderful memories. This should not be a stressful time. Plus, there’s something really romantic about running off and getting hitched.

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

If I were you, I’d definitely go ahead and have A wedding, just not the one you were originally planning. I’m sure there’s somewhere around that has a pretty yard or farm, or a church that would be cheaper/free. You can always just have cake and no big meal, especially if you have it in between meal times. But, if you’re going for a more extravagant wedding, it’s be best to postpone.

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

You can have a DIY wedding and keep it pretty low cost. You just need to ask whats important to you. Is it a big party with your friends and family or a small setting with just immediate family and very close friends.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I think like PP’s said, you can definitely scale back on the items left.

One thing you should consider is the financial hit your Future In-Laws would take if you cancel. I assume they have paid some deposits which they might lose. I would hate to put my in-laws in that position.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2026

Do regular printed paper invitations–no need for fancy cardstock! Or GO GREEN and send a mass e-mail or mass text. Forget the booze–water is just fine! And there are wedding dresses under $100 at Target. BAM. Financial issues solved. 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I would not cancel the wedding for lack of the things you mentioned. You can absolutely celebrate your wedding without alcohol and without a professional photographer (you can always have a fun post-wedding photo session a couple of years down the line when you have the money to spare).

So, that leaves the flowers and the dress. Both of those can be done relatively inexpensively. Forget about floral centerpieces, for one thing. Get a basic wildflower bouquet for yourself and maybe for your bridesmaids.

And it’s not actually mandatory to get married in a white wedding dress either, though I’m pretty sure David’s Bridal has plenty of choices for $99, and there are always sample sales or similar discount options.

Send out electronic invitations if you have to; as a PP mentioned, you can present it as the environmentally friendly option.

Basically, there’s a huge amount of room to scale back that $4000 budget to almost nothing.

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