- brideanjeza
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
i don’t know what the proper ettiquete for this is. they gave us a monetary gift.
thanks in advance!
i don’t know what the proper ettiquete for this is. they gave us a monetary gift.
thanks in advance!
It’s always polite to send a gift and a card. You can send a gift card or buy from their registry and have it sent to them, that way there’s no issues in getting it to the reception.
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If I can’t make a wedding I always buy a gift off the registry.
I send a gift for every wedding to which I am invited, whether I can attend or not.
A wedding present is not about paying someone back for your meal. If the sentiment is there, of course you can and should send her something! The only parameters are the closeness of the relationship and your budget.
You are not required to give a gift for a wedding you were invited to, but not attending. It’s completely optional. If you do choose to send a gift, you can decide which kind/how much to spend based on your relationship to the couple.
brideanjeza: you should send a gift for every wedding that you are invited to regardless of whether or not you can attend.
I would send a gift, or at least a card with a gift card to one of the stores that they registered at.
I couldn’t make it to a friend’s wedding, I wasn’t comfortable sending cash so I bought them a gift and mailed it. They couldn’t make ours, they sent cash.
Do whatever feels right to you.
I think you’ll look cheap if you don’t give them a gift. I’d get them something off their registry. Especially if they travelled or in any way helped out at your wedding.
brideanjeza: I’m of the belief that even if you didn’t go, regardless if they came to yours, you send a gift with a card. You could also just send them a gift card or cash. I’ve done that in the past if I can’t attend.
Weddings aren’t tit-for-tat. Gift what you want to gift. I always gift for any wedding, whether I attend or decline.
Xu: To clarify my earlier post, you are entirely correct. In fact, according to traditional etiquette, gifts are always voluntary.
However, from the perspective of the OP, if someone thinks enough of her to attend her wedding and to give a gift as a symbol of affection, I’d think the relationship would be such that she’d be moved to send something.
Ditto from the POV of anyone attending the wedding of someone close to them.
weddingmaven: There is nothing in the OP that states the guests that gifted the OP did so out of closesness and affection, or if done out of obligation or that they thought that’s what the etiquette was. That’s something the OP would be able to better determine, and act accordingly.
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