(Closed) Can't attend DW and registry gifts are OUTRAGEOUS! What would you do?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What would you do?
    get them a gift card for $100 or $150 : (132 votes)
    65 %
    just buy 3 bath towels or 5 rice bowls from the registry : (53 votes)
    26 %
    send a card but no gift : (18 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    596 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @cooperlove:  I know several people who have only bought a few of the items instead of the requested amount. But if you prefer to send $ – I think that’s a generous amount.

    Post # 4
    3078 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @cooperlove:  You don’t have to buy the whole set of rice bowls or all of the towels.  You can just get one or two of something.. but cash is always nice too.

    Post # 7
    2440 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @cooperlove:  We have items of various prices (some crazy expenses, more under $10) and don’t expect any gifts. We kind of used our registries as a way of organizing our OWN shopping lists (especially since so many plakces give you discounts to use after your wedding). Since we have items of various price points, we’re hoping no one feels obligated to buy something too expensive (or insulted).


    I would just send a nice card with a check.

    Post # 8
    1465 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @cooperlove:  Yeah that’s crazy! I can think of so many way better things to spend the money on! Fiance and I have decided we each get to pick something that’s more than $300 for the registry (I picked a Kitchenaid mixer and he picked a blender that can apparently blend a golf club or a cell phone), and other than that we have a good selection from $10s, $20s, $50s, a few $100s. Don’t wanna rob our relatives!

    Post # 10
    8600 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Perhaps they are already established and only really need upgraded items and are hoping people will just give cash. That’s what gets recommended around here quite a bit!

    Post # 12
    967 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think the gift card, or buying part of the set of something is fine. No one expects you to buy all of the bowls in the set.


    A gift registry is a list of things that the couple would like, or wants. They aren’t (or shouldn’t be) expecting you to buy all of it for them. Many places will give the couple a discount on things that they registered for, but were not purchased, after the wedding has passed.


    Post # 13
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    That registry is insane. Seems selfish to me, there should be affordable items to give guests options. I would just give a gift card to the store they registered at, I think many people might do the same thing this way they can still get what they want. 

    Post # 14
    967 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @cooperlove:  Then you buy one or two of them, depending on how much you want to spend.

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