(Closed) Cant believe he said this…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think he hurt your feelings, but I also don’t think he meant to. It is okay to have hurt feelings. I think you should let him know that he hurt your feelings and also let him know not to make those type of comments in the future. Honestly though, I think he was just trying to be helpful. Guys sometimes don’t think before they speak.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

Are you sure he didn’t really mean about the car? Perhaps he’s recalling your past car troubles? If not, I’d be pissed.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It’s sounds like he was trying to be more empathetic than judgemental. That being said he did hurt your feelings. I am in the mindset that you should choose your battles however, so I think if he apologized than you should move on. I tend to be over sensitive about my weight and that sometimes makes fights out of nothing so I’m very cautious about not making a mountain out of a mole hill. I’m sure you are steaming right now, but I think this is one of those things you can let blow over and you’ll forget about it in no time. Guys often experience the foot in mouth syndrome when it comes to us ladies and our weight lol.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree that sometimes guys don’t think before they speak…but I am pretty sensitive about weight comments so I would probably be pissed too.  Don’t hold this in though…let him know your feelings were hurt and not to make comments like this in the future.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Obviously he hurt your feelings, but I don’t think he meant to. Like someone else said, guys tend to either not think before they speak or it comes out the wrong way. I would be upset, too. Try explaining to him why it hurt your feelings so he knows not to do it again.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree with PP that he prob didnt mean to hurt your feelings but you should let him know he did.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

If your guy is anything like mine, approach him in a logical and less emotional manner–men understand logical arguments with little emotion attached to it, in my experience.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Aww I’m sorry. I think that it was a case of foot-in-mouth on his part. I’m sure he didn’t realize how that would make you feel. Just cool down and then ask him if you can talk with him. Make sure that he knows that you realize he wasn’t coming from a mean place but that what he said hurt your feelings. Hopefully he’ll apologize.

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