(Closed) Can't bring myself to tell my sister

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1162 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014


I have difficult relationships with my sisters and I know how horrible it can make you feel, but if she loves you like you know she does, she will just have to get over her very childish behaviour.

I would possibly steer clear of having her be your MOH, you want someone COMPLETELY supportive, just look at all the MOH-horror stories you see here. But, maybe when you tell her give her some time to calm down and leave a spot for her to be a BM, because once she gets over it she may be a little offended at you not including her or you may even decide you cant stand not to have her be a part. It may also work to make her a bit happier.

Good luck x


Post # 4
358 posts
Helper bee

You should just surround yourself with people who love you no matter what.  Anyone who wants to bring you down isent worth it.  I would announce it publicly at a big event so she will be there but won’t have to tell her directly

Post # 7
1094 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Papillion:  *hugs*


I feel ya. My twin sister spent the first 3 years of my r-ship with FI hating him.  To the point where she wouldn’t even be in the same room.  If he was dropping me off smoewhere she was and waived at her, she’d turn her back on him.  I never understood what her problem with him was.  A combo of thinking he’s not good enough, wanting to be #1 in my life, ect ect.  We had a lot of fights and tears over it. 


After we moved in together, and now that we’re engaged tho, it’s like she’s finally accepted it. And is making an effort to be nice and know him. 


I think you should not let her have the power over you to fill you with anxiety. Treat her like a bandaid and rip that bad boy off. 

(edited to add, i mean about telling her. not cutting her out)

Post # 8
1162 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Papillion:  Im having my FSIL as my only BM (Best friend being MOH) because she is closer to me than my sisters too!


Post # 9
340 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Papillion: I am having my FSIL as my maid of honour mad we are close, I have made me sister a bridesmaid , however if my sister disliked my FI as muh as yours did there would be no way I would make her a bridesmaid 

Post # 10
2609 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Papillion:  Unless your sister has a valid reason to dislike your fiancé, as in he’s abusive, disrespectful, a mooch or is otherwise bad to you or a drain on you life, then frankly, she needs to STFU. 

Who you choose is not up to her. If I were you, I’d call or write her with the news and as soon as she starts in, stop her and tell her calmly that she has already made her objections known but that this is your choice and she needs to respect it and your right to make it. 

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