(Closed) Can’t Choose. How did you?

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Honestly, it was the look on FI’s face when we walked into THE house.  I liked the house, it’s nice, doesn’t need any work (had been recently updated) and it’s in a good area.  Nothing really jumped out and like, grabbed me… but his face just lit up.  I knew at that moment this was our house.

I took a little bit of a leap of faith, but now that we’ve been in the house over a year, I love it.  It met all of my “must have” criteria (central air, fenced yard, driveway, price range, etc) so I knew I’d be ok with it. 

Post # 5
3943 posts
Honey bee

We both knew it when we walked in. It sounds corny but it just felt like home.

There were some things that were not negotiable for us and this house had everything on our “must have” list.

My advice is to focus on the things you cant change-location, size of the yard, etc. Things like colors, applicances, and cosmetic things can all be changed and upgraded over time.

Post # 6
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@aliavenue:  It says single family, and the square footage sounds about right for a single family dwelling.  Ask your realtor just in case though…

And yea, you should be picky with your home.  There are a lot of things you do before you agree to purchase it- like a home inspection!  It was about $350 for us, and it was worth it to know what we were getting into.  Certain things we don’t mind fixing, but if there are termites or electrical issues or a cracked foundation- we’re not going to be messing with it!


Post # 8
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

That is wonderful to be able to have so many options! Darling Husband and I had a very slim market when we were buying so we had out list of things we wouldn’t budge on and everything else we felt like we could work on.

I would make a spreadsheet, sort of like a comparison, to see the houses side by side. And then try to decide which features are important to you. Is having a large yard important for kids and pets or would you rather not spend your weekends doing yard work. And since you said they are in the same location is there one house with better parking, dead end street, etc. Darling Husband and I drove by the houses we were interested at night to see what the area was like after hours.

Post # 11
5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

We’re searching right now, too, and we have prioritized what are needs and wants are in any prospective home. Using your example, big closets would be much more important to us than outdated appliances. Size, layout and use of space is a biggie for us. Updating can come later, but the 4 bedrooms, back yard, big kitchen and nice closets we must have. So in our price range, we won’t get a fully updated house for the size house we are looking for. (Won’t be a fixer upper either…just not totally move in ready)  I would write down what are the most important things and see what house(s) have those traits and hopefully that will help you. Good luck!


Post # 12
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I have pretty high standards, so we had the opposite issue of having very few houses that fit the criteria. We looked at non-negotiables first to rule out a lot of properties. Our non-negotiables were price, schools (which dictated location within our county), lot size, surrounding area ( e.g. not in a subdivision), interior square footage, number of bedrooms, number of bathrooms, availability of parking for many cars, a good floorplan for entertaining, wow factor, and generally good construction/condition of the house.  Basically, we needed the house to really work for us, our lifestyle, and our future plans. And it needed to make us feel like we were really getting something good for our money. From there we looked at preferences, such as having an attached 2 (or more) car garage, having hardwood floors, newer appliances, etc. The preferences were all either things we could comfortably live without or things that we could easily change over the years to meet our standards. 

The biggest selling points of the house we are currently under contract on were the view (wow factor), the quality of the construction (very solid and new-ish), and tht it was designed in a way that really fits how we live and how we entertain. It just felt right on every level, and we both instantly agreed on it (a rarity for us).

Post # 13
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

For us, it just felt right when we walked in.  That feeling of “this is our house”.  On top of that, it fit all of our must haves.

My parents have bought 3 houses in their lifetimes and they said for all three of them they walked in and simply had the “this is the one” feeling.

Post # 14
870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Our exeperience was different as DC is a really awful, terrible market. If a home is at all afforable near the city it means it’s small, super old (and hasn’t been renovated) but still costs 600-700k. It was ridiculous. We saw a lot of house that we just didn’t like at all. Weird layouts, houses that hadn’t been kept up at all, house with little to no land.

So when we finally stepped into “our” home (we close 2 weeks from today! eek!) it was  a breath of fresh air. A large, well maintained colonial, with a large, flat back yard and a pool! We knew immediately we wanted to put an offer in as fast as possible because it was the ONLY house we liked after seeing about 30!

Post # 15
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Honestly in my mind the most important thing is to be sure you both love it. I bought a house with my ex. He preferred one house, I wanted the other one. We bought the one he wanted. I came to hate that house, from the tiny size of the house (small duplex) to the drug dealers next door. Because the market crashed so bad we would still owe 20k even if it sold for the current appraised value. And yes I am still stuck financially with that house.

There is more going into it then just square footage. Make sure you thoroughly check out the neighborhood before you buy. It sounds crazy but one night go out there and just check it out several different times of day over a week’s span. You could be inbetween feuding neighbors or something crazy like that.

Post # 16
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You all say you got the “feeling”…boy do I hope that happens soon for us! We have looked at 10 houses so far…and I got the sorta…”feeling” about the last one – but they accepted a cash offer right before we went to do an offer on it. 🙁 So sad.

I got the “feeling” on my wedding dress – so hopefully I just know…and hubby will agree!


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