(Closed) Can't control my jealously (Closed)

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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And for the record, I’ve been with my SO since I was 19. We just got engaged last summer, at the age of 25. Almost 6 years!
Let me just say, you grow up A LOT in your 20s. The person I am now is not the same person I was at 19. My SO and I worked through it and managed to grow up together… But it wasn’t easy. You’re still molding your life and trying to figure out who you are… You’re clearly more focused on having a beautiful wedding when the primary focus should be about having a beautiful marriage. That “pretty dress” you’re dreaming of, you’ll only wear for 7 hours of your life. But you’re stuck with that man for the rest of your life. Definitely something to tread lightly… 

 

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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@rawrrrrr:  BAHAHAHAHAHHA!! I’m obsessed with this gif!

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

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Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@desperatetowed:  That’s whack…if you keep harassing him about getting married this early in the relationship he will probably end it for you so you won’t have to worry about it.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@desperatetowed:  seeing young brides breaks my heart, too.  I think it’s sad when people get married SUPER young.  You have your whole life ahead of you.  You need to get a new job, get hobbies or make friends that are also in college and not interested in weddings.  You are only young once.  This is your time to learn, grow, and find out who you are as a woman. 

Post # 39
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Sugar bee

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Post # 40
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

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@desperatetowed:  If you really want to be with him (not just because he’s in medicine and has his own house and is older) then I suggest you don’t pull any ultimatums. Think about it – he will think “Hmm. So that’s why I shouldn’t date someone who is still a teenager”. Trust me. Guys do not like to be pressured… especially after 8 months. Keep it light and fun. You have your whole life to be married.

You don’t have to move in with him before you get engaged, either.

The way your original post came off is that of a spoiled little girl who wants to play princess for a day. That is not what marriage is about. If you truly love and want to be with him, you will give it more time. It’s ok to talk about where the relationship is headed, but if you throw the “If you don’t want to marry me NOW I am outta here!” tantrum, he will leave you.

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Get a new job.. not a new boyfriend. Although TBH if I heard the story from your BF’s perspective (been with a girl eight months, she’s 19, she’s cool but she says she’s going to leave me if I don’t propose ASAP) I’d tell him to run as far away from you as possible. 

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

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Post # 43
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@canarydiamond:  as he should: a 19 year old threatening to leave someone they’ve been dating for 8 months is the textbook definition of “no. just, no.”

Post # 44
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@dewingedpixie:  exactly what I thought! At 19, I was in a sorority and we had dances alllllllllllll the time.

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

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@desperatetowed:

Good luck at finding a job.  I suggest you take whatever you can that’ll still support your needs and than find a better one when you can.

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