Post # 1
So it’s been laid out on the table that my boyfriend’s looking for an engagement ring since he kept asking what kind of ring I liked, taking me to jewelry stores, etc. I also did a bunch of online searching for some ringspiration and came across ones by Heidi Gibson that I absolutely fell in love with such as:
My question is: is it too much? I asked many of my friends their thoughts and they all agreed that it doesn’t look anything like an engagement ring. One even said it looks like a christmas ornament. Even my boyfriend said it looks more like a RHR. The weirder thing is, I never liked this style before I saw these rings specifically. Any other cluster/ballerina vintage rings I’ve seen I’ve always thought were waaay too much for my taste.
Before this, I’ve been obsessing over the more contemporary oval halo style rings:
Normally I prefer the more simple and minimalistic designs but there’s just something about how unique and different Heidi Gibson’s rings look while still looking delicate and small just really pops out for me.
I know user queenoftheclouds had the exact same dilemma 6 months ago and similarly, I know this is a silly issue to have before getting engaged– but to quote her, “I don’t want ring regret”. Thoughts? Is it too much? Does it not look like an engagement ring? And any ladies with Heidi Gibson rings out there that can share their ring experience would be very much appreciated!
Post # 2
kekkondekinai : I would get what you want, but you should factor in everything first. That HG ring is going to snag and catch on EVERYTHING. The only thing I can think of when I see those is how much of a pain they’d be to wear all of the time. And would you be self-conscious wearing a ring that most people don’t see as an engagement ring? I’m not saying you should feel that way, but, again, it’s something to consider. To me, an engagement ring is a ring that’s on someone’s left ring finger before marriage. No more, no less. It could be a hair tie, and I’d still consider it an engagement ring. Personally, though, visually and for everyday wear, HG rings are way, WAY too much for me.
Post # 3
I agree with PP. That ring would snag on everything. You should totally get what ring you like best, but just something to keep in mind.
Post # 4
I love that first ring! Personally, I’m not a fan of the more modern halos. I think the other ones you posted are way more awesome. There are no rules for what an engagement ring has to look like. No one’s opinion but yours matters when making this decision. Choose what you love and don’t worry about others’ opinions.
Post # 5
I would trade my oval halo for a Heidi Gibson without a second thought lol!! They are beautiful and I drool every time I see one!! I’m no help but I would choose unique and stunning over simple any day lol!
Post # 6
kekkondekinai : The first two rings look like cocktail rings to me. I know I’d get them caught on everything. LOL Great for a RHR but somehow they don’t say “engagement” – and they may be difficult to clean.
The third ring is very pretty and definitely looks like an engagement ring – and would be easier to wear and to clean.
Choose what you love, though. 🙂
Post # 7
kekkondekinai : I love those rings above but do think they don’t look like traditional E-Rings (not that there is anything wrong with that) so you will have to decide if this is something you will want to wear forever. I do agree with some of the other comments that they will get snagged a lot AND because the sidestones aren’t common cuts, if you lose a stone its going to be a pain in the ass to replace.
You seem to like the rose gold in those styles. Maybe you can get some non-traditional bands or have the Engagement Ring be a rose gold setting etc… so that way you can have some unique elements but still have the ring look like an e-ring.
Post # 8
kekkondekinai : Those Heidi Gibson rings are absolutely gorgeous! Let’s be honest, engagement rings are not exactly practical. I have seen and tried on some very ornate settings, which are still pretty popular right now, that the jewelers have told me still sell big time.
I think you should get what your heart desires. I’m not one to wear rings 24/7 anyway (although I know some Bees do) so practically would not necessarily be at the top of the list…for me.
FWIW, my grandmother and great aunts all had rings like that and they wore them all the time. My grandmother always said jewelry should be worn and not kept hiding in a box and I agree. If you love that style, just realize it may be more maintenance than other styles and be careful. If it’s well made and you have the prongs checked out by a jeweler every year, I don’t see why you couldn’t wear it everyday.
Post # 9
I am not someone who is stuck on the idea of “traditional” for a ring. An engagement ring can be whatever YOU want to wear as engagement ring. The worry about whether other people will think it is or is not has always been a peculiar concern for me – who cares what others think or not? I have never looked at someone’s ring (even a true vintage cluster ring or ballerina-style ring) and thought “well, that certainly does not look like an engagement ring!” I am sure women of the past who wore some more ornate designs did not worry about that either.
I think the HG rings are very pretty, and I personally do prefer them to more modern halos. If they are your style, go for it.
I would “warn” that baguettes are notoriously bad for looking “dirty” with the slightest fingerprints, or oil residue. I would recommend if you go for that ring you go for diamond sidestones (not sapphires, which I know HG has as an option, as they look dirtier even faster) and be ready to drop that ring in some warm water and Dawn dishsoap, and scrub with a baby toothbrush, on a daily basis. I do this with my rings anyway, it is easy to soak them while you are having a shower or getting dressed, no big deal.
I think the risk of snagging is a bit overrated as rings are not that *difficult* to wear (I always wonder about the day to day lives of those who stress concerns about rings snagging all over the place and what the heck they are doing, unless they are seamstresses) and you do not need to wear them 24/7 either (and really, usually should not no matter what style). Just don’t wear a ring like that to bed or when putting on pantyhose 😉
Post # 10
Wow!! So many helpful comments already! Thank you, bees!
sparklesparkle101 : Astra : MissJulianna : Definitely taking practicality into consideration and it really helps to shine light on how it may snag on things, or how easy it is to replace stones and clean, etc. Thank you 🙂
sunnierdaysahead2 : Yeah, I noticed they were really popular back in the day as e-rings so it’s kind of a shame that they’ve devolved to looking like “cocktail rings” I guess. Did you grandmother have it cleaned or replaced every now and then throughout the years?
I should really step out and see if there are any nearby jewelers that sell this style- honestly I’ve never seen it but I wish I could try HG rings specifically. You’ll only realize whether or not you like something once you try it on –
Post # 11
RayKay : I was thinking if I wanted the HG ring, i’d have it all set in diamond. Do the baguette styles naturally get dirtier regardless though?
And since I’m typically for modern halos and have just recently fallen in love with HG rings, I’m afraid of not liking it as much in the future. Or if I end up with the halo, envying that I don’t have the HG ring. I really need to try this in person I guess to really see if it’s me – but I know that rings similar to the style are usually comically huge so it may not even be the same.
Post # 12
OMG I’m an extremely practical person and the thought of trying to wear those first two rings every day makes me cringe. It would literally snag on every single thing. Clothing, hair, furniture. I would lose a ring like that after only a few weeks from constantly having to take it off so it wouldn’t snag. And don’t even THINK about ever being able to wear your ring after you start having kids (if you plan to have kids.) I’ve read that even plain halos can be too much to wear with children, which is why I’m leaning toward a solitaire.
I would suggest you go for something more practical for your true engagement ring and just ask that your SO get you one of these rings as a special gift later down the line. You could even both save up and split the cost if they are on the more expensive side…? It might be great as your push present for your first child (again, if you plan to have children) or as an anniversary gift.
Then, you could switch it out with your engagement ring whenever you like!
Post # 13
kekkondekinai : Baguettes do naturally look dirtier faster. It is just a function of their cut – they have a large table facet, and less smaller facets to disguise when they get dirty. As I said though, just soak it for a few minutes daily. Not a big deal, and diamonds – even non-baguettes – always look their best when clean so I am a proponent of daily/near-daily cleans no matter what cut/style you have. The pave in a modern halo can look pretty dirty without regular cleaning too 🙂
If you are concerned about not liking it in future, you can always go for your first preference of a modern halo, and look at something like an HG ring for a future anniversary present (or to buy for yourself) as a RHR, etc. But it definitely would be nice to try in person. Do you know if HG has sample rings?
Post # 14
Maybe something like this would get you the best of both worlds…? This is gildedlane on IG
Post # 15
duchessgummybunns : haha! fair to say any form of jewelry is not practical with a child! But yeah, probably would make sense to make it an anniversary gift for the far off future.
RayKay : Apparently to keep her costs low, she doesn’t deal with any partners that would showcase her jewelry. Instead she offers in-person visits, which she’s completely booked for. She does have a printable sheet of the rings in their actual sizes that you can cut out and… like… tape on your finger to visual see how it’d look but it’s just not workin’ for me. :/