(Closed) Can't decide…

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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238 posts
Helper bee

kekkondekinai :  I would get what you want, but you should factor in everything first. That HG ring is going to snag and catch on EVERYTHING. The only thing I can think of when I see those is how much of a pain they’d be to wear all of the time. And would you be self-conscious wearing a ring that most people don’t see as an engagement ring? I’m not saying you should feel that way, but, again, it’s something to consider. To me, an engagement ring is a ring that’s on someone’s left ring finger before marriage. No more, no less. It could be a hair tie, and I’d still consider it an engagement ring. Personally, though, visually and for everyday wear, HG rings are way, WAY too much for me.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I agree with PP.  That ring would snag on everything.  You should totally get what ring you like best, but just something to keep in mind.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I love that first ring! Personally, I’m not a fan of the more modern halos. I think the other ones you posted are way more awesome. There are no rules for what an engagement ring has to look like. No one’s opinion but yours matters when making this decision. Choose what you love and don’t worry about others’ opinions.

Post # 5
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460 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2006

I would trade my oval halo for a Heidi Gibson without a second thought lol!! They are beautiful and I drool every time I see one!! I’m no help but I would choose unique and stunning over simple any day lol!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

kekkondekinai :  The first two rings look like cocktail rings to me.  I know I’d get them caught on everything.  LOL  Great for a RHR but somehow they don’t say “engagement” –  and they may be difficult to clean.  

The third ring is very pretty and definitely looks like an engagement ring – and would be easier to wear and to clean.  

Choose what you love, though.  ๐Ÿ™‚  

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

kekkondekinai :  I love those rings above but do think they don’t look like traditional E-Rings (not that there is anything wrong with that) so you will have to decide if this is something you will want to wear forever. I do agree with some of the other comments that they will get snagged a lot AND because the sidestones aren’t common cuts, if you lose a stone its going to be a pain in the ass to replace.

You seem to like the rose gold in those styles. Maybe you can get some non-traditional bands or have the Engagement Ring be a rose gold setting etc… so that way you can have some unique elements but still have the ring look like an e-ring.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

kekkondekinai :  Those Heidi Gibson rings are absolutely gorgeous!  Let’s be honest, engagement rings are not exactly practical.  I have seen and tried on some very ornate settings, which are still pretty popular right now, that the jewelers have told me still sell big time.

I think you should get what your heart desires.  I’m not one to wear rings 24/7 anyway (although I know some Bees do) so practically would not necessarily be at the top of the list…for me.

FWIW, my grandmother and great aunts all had rings like that and they wore them all the time.  My grandmother always said jewelry should be worn and not kept hiding in a box and I agree.  If you love that style, just realize it may be more maintenance than other styles and be careful.  If it’s well made and you have the prongs checked out by a jeweler every year, I don’t see why you couldn’t wear it everyday.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

I am not someone who is stuck on the idea of “traditional” for a ring. An engagement ring can be whatever YOU want to wear as engagement ring. The worry about whether other people will think it is or is not has always been a peculiar concern for me – who cares what others think or not? I have never looked at someone’s ring (even a true vintage cluster ring or ballerina-style ring) and thought “well, that certainly does not look like an engagement ring!” I am sure women of the past who wore some more ornate designs did not worry about that either.

I think the HG rings are very pretty, and I personally do prefer them to more modern halos. If they are your style, go for it.

I would “warn” that baguettes are notoriously bad for looking “dirty” with the slightest fingerprints, or oil residue. I would recommend if you go for that ring you go for diamond sidestones (not sapphires, which I know HG has as an option, as they look dirtier even faster) and be ready to drop that ring in some warm water and Dawn dishsoap, and scrub with a baby toothbrush, on a daily basis. I do this with my rings anyway, it is easy to soak them while you are having a shower or getting dressed, no big deal.

I think the risk of snagging is a bit overrated as rings are not that *difficult* to wear (I always wonder about the day to day lives of those who stress concerns about rings snagging all over the place and what the heck they are doing, unless they are seamstresses) and you do not need to wear them 24/7 either (and really, usually should not no matter what style). Just don’t wear a ring like that to bed or when putting on pantyhose ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

OMG I’m an extremely practical person and the thought of trying to wear those first two rings every day makes me cringe. It would literally snag on every single thing. Clothing, hair, furniture. I would lose a ring like that after only a few weeks from constantly having to take it off so it wouldn’t snag. And don’t even THINK about ever being able to wear your ring after you start having kids (if you plan to have kids.) I’ve read that even plain halos can be too much to wear with children, which is why I’m leaning toward a solitaire. 

I would suggest you go for something more practical for your true engagement ring and just ask that your SO get you one of these rings as a special gift later down the line. You could even both save up and split the cost if they are on the more expensive side…? It might be great as your push present for your first child (again, if you plan to have children) or as an anniversary gift.

Then, you could switch it out with your engagement ring whenever you like!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

kekkondekinai :  Baguettes do naturally look dirtier faster. It is just a function of their cut – they have a large table facet, and less smaller facets to disguise when they get dirty. As I said though, just soak it for a few minutes daily. Not a big deal, and diamonds – even non-baguettes – always look their best when clean so I am a proponent of daily/near-daily cleans no matter what cut/style you have. The pave in a modern halo can look pretty dirty without regular cleaning too ๐Ÿ™‚

If you are concerned about not liking it in future, you can always go for your first preference of a modern halo, and look at something like an HG ring for a future anniversary present (or to buy for yourself) as a RHR, etc. But it definitely would be nice to try in person. Do you know if HG has sample rings?

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Maybe something like this would get you the best of both worlds…? This is gildedlane on IG

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