(Closed) can't decide if I should tell people the name we chose – would you?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Should I reveal our baby's name at my baby shower?
    yes, it will be cute and fun to reveal it on the baby shower cake (2.5 months before due date) : (45 votes)
    20 %
    no, you are better off waiting until the baby is born : (182 votes)
    79 %
    other - explain below : (3 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    3773 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    We have gone in with a list of two or three names for each of our girls. We shared those names wiht our families before hand and I wish we hadn’t. With #2 my dad made fun of the name and came up with a stupid nickname that annoys me every time he says it. I wish we would have just kept them to ourselves until we picked and baby was already named. Once it is done, what can they say?

    This time we have a few names for each sex and we have kept them on the DL, my oldest likes to share the list with others, but we don’t bring the subject up and definately aren’t asking opinions on the matter.

    Post # 4
    790 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Not a parent or pregnant, but I like the idea of leaving an element of surprise for people. And no matter what name you choose, someone will hate it, but people are more likely to keep their opinions to themselves after the baby is already here and named. 

    Post # 5
    116 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We are absolutely not telling anyone our name until the baby is born and officially named. I honestly just don’t want their opinions. haha.

    Post # 6
    6512 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’d wait.  If you tell people before the baby is born, you are giving them a chance to criticize, and some people will criticize ANYTHING!  If you wait til there is an actual person they can see attached to that name, they are more likely to keep their opinins to themselves lol

    Post # 7
    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I will probably share my name when we are fully committed to it. I’ve already shared our choice for boys name with our families and got really mixed reactions but honestly I could care less because my husband and I love it that much. I’d say if you are in a love with a name you really just have to the let the comments roll off you. Not everyone is going to have the same opinions on names. My sister named my nephew Cash and I thought it was just strange at first but I actually love it and it fits him perfectly. I can’t imagine him having any other name.


    Post # 8
    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @dynamic_duo:  I wouldn’t put it on the cake. Yes it’s a cute idea, but it sounds like you’re the type of person who cares what others think. If the reactions aren’t great, you WILL second guess yourself.

    I’d wait until the kid is born, and then announce it then. People are less likely to voice their negative opinions once the baby is really there and the name is set in stone.

    Post # 9
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Keep it to yourself.  There is always someone who thinks they’re “helping” by pointing out what a stupid name it is or what horrible nicknames people can come up with. 

    My coworker has a daughter named Athena.  If he had told me he was going to name her Athena I might not have been able to hide my “really? is she a super baby?” look on my face.  But seriously, this kid fits her name. 

    Post # 10
    230 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    you will always be subjected to other people’s opinions on the name you chose.  IMO you should NEVER reveal your chosen name until you’re literally placing the baby in someone arms and saying “meet our new baby, Jack!”

    you’ll never please anyone and people will not be shy about telling you how they had someone in their high school gym class with that name that they hated…:)


    Post # 11
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m with the PP’s. I’d probably keep it to myself since outside opinions can be a real pain in the ass. Besides, I’ve heard of people being dead set on a name and then the baby is born and for whatever reason, they don’t think he/she looks like a _____ (which I question because I think all babies look pretty much the same). If this happens to you, and your loved ones jumped the gun by having personalized crap made, that could make for a pretty awkward situation when they give you a blanket adorned with the name Jack but you named him Charlie (or whatever it may be). 

    Post # 12
    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I would wait.  I’m not a parent yet, but I have several friends who have been 100% decided on a name only to change their minds close to the due date or when they met the baby.  You never know!

    Post # 13
    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Oooh I voted wrongly, clicked on Other, I meant to vote YES!

    Definitely! And I love your idea of putting baby name on cake. And honestly, no one should give any reaction other than supportive because that’s your baby! 

    Honestly, unless someone names their baby something stupid like profanities or insulting words, I will never say anything negative about it.

    Is it because there are a few people’s reactions in the group that you are worreid about, as in are they the type that usually don’t filter before talking? If that’s the case, can you get a sibiling or mother to lobby for you and just pre-empt everyone to be supportive?

    We are TTC and as soon as I ma pregnant, I am so telling the whole world my baby name choice just to call dibs! It’s so competitive out here, and good names like Olivia & Sophia are used up many times this year already!


    Post # 15
    4583 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    While I do think putting the name on a cake is a super cute idea, if you’re really concerned about people voicing their opinions (and everyone has an opinion), I would hold off telling people the name until baby is born.

    ETA: I see I’m late to the party on this one and you’ve already decided. Laughing

    Post # 16
    6823 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would definately wait. We knew well we had actually 2 names picked out for munckin but we were 99.9% sure we were going with the one we liked best.

    When anyone asked us that question. I always answered well we have some names picked out but not sure yet which one and we want to see munchkin before we name him.

    People are more likely to say they don’t like the name when they can’t actually see the baby yet then when the baby is already here.

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