Can't decide if pretty but uncomfortable shoes are worth it

posted 2 months ago in Shoes
Post # 16
587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I wore my pretty/uncomfortable shoes for the ceremony so I could get a few photos with them but changed into comfy wedges for the reception. I used to teach all day in 3 inch heels and just being in my most comfortable wedges I was still so SORE the next day. You don’t think about how much weight your dress adds, you literally never sit down, get so hot, etc. I highly recommend looking up crocs wedges. I know I sound crazy but they are actually super cute and feel like pillows. You can see them in some of my photos and they just look like white wedges you’d get for a wedding. Seriously no one sees your shoes unless you lift up your dress a lot, don’t sacrifice comfort. 

The photo of the shoes: 

And literally one of two photos where you can “accidentally” see my shoes. 

Post # 18
1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE

Coming from someone who wore $10 Payless flats that I already owned w/ an elaborate pink mermaid dress: you should wear what makes you comfortable! I actually think the platform wedges are cute, and like a PP said, if you aren’t worried about those being seen, then why would you buy a more expensive and less comfortable shoe that also can’t be seen? 

I wear heels occasionally but am definitely not a “shoe” person. For some women it’s all about the shoe, but I get the feeling you’re just trying to look taller and be comfortable πŸ˜‰ I’m assuming the people at your wedding will all know you both, so they already know you’re short and he’s tall! I think the wedges you already have are perfect πŸ™‚


Post # 19
981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

chitownyogini :  aww thanks! It was love at first sight with those and I wanted to wear them all the time πŸ˜…

Post # 20
2130 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

COMFORT… but not those wedges. I actually wore the most comfortable pair of nude wedges from amazon of all places for the entire wedding. I had a “stunt” pair for like 1 staged photo but honestly comfort and being able to confidently walk and move trumped actually wearing them. 

Post # 21
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

I had the same problem. I’m 4’11’ and wanted to be as tall as possible. Go with comfort. I really wanted sparkly cinderella-esque shoes but I went through buying/returning 5 pairs because they were all so uncomfortable. In the end, I wore a pair of plain nude platform strappy heels and had a plain pair of wedges as backup. No regrets. I lasted 5 hours on my heels. 

If you want, you can buy a pair of dream heels right before your wedding, use them for your accessory photographs, and then return them. No one will ever know. lol

Post # 23
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

drewby1121 :  Never. Uncomfortable shoes are never worth it. 

Post # 24
14 posts
  • Wedding: March 2018

I wore these Badgley Mischka’s (with a heel guard for when we went outside) and they were surprisingly comfortable. If you do wear non-wedge heels, I definitely agree with the person who recommended wearing a caged heel or one with a strap so your foot doesn’t slide. I’m 5’2 and my husband is 6’2 so I liked the heel, but more than anything I felt more wedding-y in a fancy heel (and we took some pictures that featured them). I kept them on for the ceremony/reception, but I definitely went barefoot at our afterparty (12-4AM) – my preference to shoes in general. Screen Shot 2019-05-21 at 11.29.49 PM

Post # 25
1997 posts
Buzzing bee

I wore white flip flop style wedges with my wedding dress.  They did not show and I enjoyed being comfortable.  

Post # 26
2975 posts
Sugar bee

I wore gold wedges that were pretty and comfortable. I actually had a matching pair of heels that were higher but I quickly switched to the wedges because of comfort. You are on your feet for so long that comfort is key.



Post # 27
1117 posts
Bumble bee

I am wearing beautiful white bridal wedges as I am getting married on grass. There are tons of beaitiful wedges.


I am changing clothes  for reception and wearing stilettos . Honestly I’d wear flats, my fh and I are not far off in height, but he likes heels n legs. 


I would not wear the wedges you posted but there are alot of options! 

Post # 28
574 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

I’m guilty of not reading this thread – lazy – I just wanted to say if you don’t mind spending a bit more for heels And comfort, check out John fluevog shoes. 

Do try to try them on in person, as the last is different for each shoe “family.” 

These are a pair of my wedding shoes – comfy, stable heel. 

Post # 29
42 posts
  • Wedding: July 2020

Never ever go for style over comfort when you are going to be on your feet all day – if you are in pain it will show on your face in photos and also mean you are distracted from your day because your feet hurt! That said, I’m not a fan of the wedges you are suggesting, but there are loads of options between those and glitter skyscraper heels – PPs have suggested some above. Personally I am toying with either wearing sparkly keds or flip flops, but that’s because I have foot issues anyway, there will be walking on cobbles required at my wedding, and that I am the world’s clumsiest person so I am trying to avoid falling flat on my face! Why don’t you go and try some different options and see how they work for you? No heels are comfortable for me, including wedges, because of my foot problems, but I understand that how painful heels are for people with ‘normal’ feet can vary wildly from person to person so the only option is really to try some out and see how you go. Good luck!

Post # 30
5004 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Have you even tried them on or have you just decided they are uncomfortable based on google?  

There are a lot of shoes in between an uncomfortable heel and those wedges, have you looked into something like a nude block heel sandal? 

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