Can't decide on a date!

posted 3 months ago in Emotional
Post # 2
6880 posts
Busy Beekeeper

clfitz :  I’d go for March 7th. You are very likely to still have snow on the ground in Vermont at that time of year (it’s March 12th and there is still snow on the ground in Boston this year!) and saving money and having family there is a no-brainer to me. 

Post # 3
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Canada

March 7th for sure.

Post # 4
107 posts
Blushing bee

Why is there a fee on the 29th but not the 7th, is it still the same venue? For that reason alone, I’d go with the 7th even though I can appreciate wanting a fun date (we got married on a Friday, the 13th because I thought it was fun). Have you considered other venues that would not have the extra fee? Although it would be nice to have the aunt and uncle there, there’s probably not a single date you could choose that would work perfectly for everyone, so I think it’s best to base the date on what you want. With our wedding being on a Friday, we figured we’d have quite a few No RSVPs and were fine with that, but literally everyone said yes, and only one couple didn’t make it which was due to fires near their home, not the day of the week. 

Post # 5
481 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: London, UK

Struggling to see any benefits to Feb except it being a leap year? I love the idea of a fun date but I would never prioritise that over my family being able to attend.

Post # 6
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

You can’t control snow. It’s up to you and your budget. Is a fun wedding/anniversary date worth $1500 and do you have the $1500 to spend? I think that would be a great anniversary, but would balk at the cost, settle for the next week, and be eternally disappointed and hang onto the story for decades hahaha. 

Post # 7
1990 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I would pick the March date as well. The leap year aspect might be not be as important to you in the future, but more family being able to attend might be. Plus, you’ll save some money. Weather is too unpredicable to decide between 2 dates that close together.

Post # 12
160 posts
Blushing bee

Personaly it would be a no brainer for March 7th for me.

– Its only a week difference. 

– It being a leap year is a novelty that wouldn’t matter to me and is definitely not worth $1500. As a guest I wouldn’t notice, as a bride it wouldn’t make my day any more special but I would mind about that non of the big mile stones would fall on the right wedding date. 5 years not a leap year, 10 years not a leap year, 25 not a leap year, 50 not a leap year. Only your 20th and your 40th milestone anniversary will be on the 29th of February. 

– $1500 is a lot of money that could go to other things.

– Never bet on the weather your just asking to be disappointed. If it snows amazing but if it is poring down with rain it should not ruin your day. 

-What going to be more importaint to you in a few years time? That you got maried on a leap day or that your aunt and uncle where there?

Post # 13
1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

March 7th, hands down. Save your money, see your family. You’re very likely to have snow either way.

Post # 14
481 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: London, UK

clfitz :  That’s annoying. Why aren’t you allowed to get married before your brother? I mean, I get not getting married like the day or even the week before, but not just being not allowed to get married before them in general.

I totally get wanting a specific date. I’ve got a date that I want because it’s the weekend of our 10 year anniversary. My parents think it’s too far into the future (it’s 23 months away), but in my head it is just the date that I want and I don’t want to budge on it!

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