Can't decide on a date!

posted 4 months ago in Emotional
Post # 17
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: London, UK

clfitz :  It always shocks me when people think that getting married entitles them to an entire month or entire season. They get ONE DAY! Why don’t people get that 😑 My cousin got engaged 3 weeks after me and her engagement party was last weekend, 2 weeks before mine. I saw it as a good thing as I was able to get some inspiration for ours!

Post # 19
484 posts
Helper bee

My SO and I (hopefully engaged soon?) also looked at those two dates and we are really tempted to do Feb 29 so I vote that! We might not because we want an outdoor reception 😬

Post # 20
825 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

March 7th because that’s my birthday 🙂 

Leap year is a fun idea but I’d prefer to have the family members that are important to me there over a date. 

Post # 21
5880 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I would go with March 7th for the big wedding but maybe do something small and private on the 29th, so you get to have an experience on that date but you’re saving money and your family are more likely to be able to attend.

Post # 23
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

Go with the 7th so your aunt and uncle can be there! I was between two dates this year – September 28 and October 5. I found out one of my best friends from high school had her stepsister’s wedding on October 5. I know you shouldn’t pick a date around other people. But with all else equal, I picked the date she could make, because she’s important to me. (She isn’t in my wedding party, but if I had one more bridesmaid, it would’ve been her.) I’ve been thinking the same thing though, what if the weather ends up being better on the other date? But you just have to make a choice and go with it. Also, I’m a meteorologist, and I agree with the others who said there will likely still be snow on the ground one week later. It will depend on the type of winter it was – if it was a snowy winter or not. If it wasn’t, there probably wouldn’t be snow on the ground on Feb. 29th either, even though it’s earlier.

I was slightly conflicted because September 28 is the birthday of one of my uncles, and ever since I was little I’ve associated that date with him (my family makes a big deal about birthdays). I briefly had the thought, “I want a date that’s special just to us” but quickly realized how stupid that was. Instead, the date will be even better since it will be our anniversary PLUS his birthday. And, because my good friend will be able to attend.

Post # 24
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

Definitely March 7th. I can’t see how a leap day is favorable and even more expensive. The idea of the husband getting away with not celebrating  wedding anniversary for 4 years would be my worst nightmare. I don’t know any men who wouldn’t just try to use that to their advantage. 😀 

Post # 25
4682 posts
Honey bee

I’m not trying to cause problems but will your aunt and uncle for sure come? 

Post # 26
742 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

For sure the 7th, I know some people like having quirky dates but saving a chunk of cash, having people you want possibly make it, and also getting an anniversary every year would sell the 7th for me.

Post # 27
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2025 - City, State

Southern VT might be snowless on 2/29 and 3/7 then have a major storm (the night before, preferably!) 3/14.  There’s no knowing, so go with the day your aunt and uncle can come and save the money or put it towards something else.

Post # 28
11446 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

clfitz :  I’d go with the March date. Although it sounds cool to get married on leap day, it may not seem so nice when you literally can’t celebrate an anniversary on the day you were married three out of every four years.

You have some legitimate reasons to select the March date.

I, too, checked weather data dating back 20 years when I had to choose between a May and a June wedding date at my venue. Because we were getting married outdoors, I didn’t want rain or excessive heat. I know you can’t predict rain, but I thought I could possibly predict temperature. I studied 20 years worth of temperature data, and the temps were almost all in the 70s for our May date. We chose it.

The weather had the last laugh.

It turned out to be 96 degrees on the date of our May wedding.



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