Post # 1
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Newbee
My boyfriend has been bugging me to pick a ring/style I like and I just can’t decide what to do. I’ve always wanted an asscher but they are just so expensive because they need to be very clean and white cuz you see everything in the step cuts. My finger is a size 9 so I need a bigger stone because it will look a lot smaller on my fat fingers lol so we would want around 1.5 ct if it’s an asscher because it will face up like a 1ct round. I really wanted to get an asha or Quorri because it’s a lot cheaper and I’d rather spend the money on our wedding and house and then upgrade to a real stone in a few years when we are all settled but he refuses to buy a fake diamond! So these are my options for our budget
1) cut I want but not size or setting I want- get a smaller asscher probably like a .8-.9 ct and do a halo so it has more finger coverage(I’m definitely not a fan of halo settings but with a .8 ct asscher it’s going to look like a .3-.4 ct round on my fat fingers)
2) not the cut I want but the size and setting I want- get a 1.3-1.5 ct radiant or pear cut wit a pavé band
i love the asscher because you don’t see it much, it’s unique and I love the way they sparkle but I really don’t want to lose the finger coverage 🙁
wish he would just buy a fake one for now!!! Lol
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
I would say if thats what you want work on convincng him. Most people will never know its fake and then upraged to a real stone when more comfortable. I love asscher as well but like you said very expensive
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
I wouldn’t NOT go a halo for the pure sake of making it look bigger. If you liked them, different story but you have made it clear you do, so that would be a big mistake IMO. Whatever you get, it won’t be cheap, and that would just be a bigger waste of money purely for appearance purposes.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
Ashleypeter2015: I would go to a jewelers to look at different sizes/shapes. Maybe a 1 ct asscher won’t look bad afterall! You could also consider a pave setting or 3 stone ring to maximize ”finger coverage”. lol
If you’re not a fan of halo, cross that off your options.
Now decide what’s more important–size? or shape?
If you’re not set on a diamond, I’d recommend moissanite 🙂
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
Ashleypeter2015: What about an asscher amora gem moissanite? Much more cost effective and very durable!
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: A very pretty church.
Bridey77: Why did you have to post that? It’s mesmerising.
Ashleypeter2015: Why not go the gem ring route and (if you want to) upgrade later? I can understand how you feel re big fingers, it’s not about telling people ‘Oh, this little thing? It’s only 1.4 carat’…humble bragging, it’s not having your stone dwarfed my your finger.
I’m a size 9 and have a fairly unusual halo setting which I love, but it sounds like you’re not a big fan of regular halos…how about a diamond with a gem halo (baguette cut)? Or even the same in diamonds. It could give you great coverage and they look stunning.
Post # 7
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Newbee
amstudent1: we did go look at different sizes and the 1ct asscher looks very small on my big fingers, it looks like .3ct round on a smaller finger 🙁 and it’s not that I want this huge rock or anything i just want something that looks nice on my finger and doesn’t get lost because my fingers are so chubby, if my fingers were smaller I would definitely go with a smaller diamond
Im not really a fan of moissanite because it’s a little too warm for my taste
Post # 8
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Newbee
Bridey77: that’s beautiful I’ve been waiting very impatiently for the Amora gem to be available in Canada!! Do the moissanite AmOra have that really warm color like the regular moissanite?
Post # 9
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Newbee
Taiki: it’s not that I hate halos, I just find they are very overdone, everyone I know has one lol
I’m going to work on convincing him to get a hybrid for now and the upgrading later
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: A very pretty church.
Ashleypeter2015: I’m not a fan of the typical pave halos either (they are incredibly ‘done’), but I like some unusual halo designs. Good luck convincing him!
Post # 11
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Helper bee
Have you looked on blue nile? They are good value and also have an upgrade policy
Post # 12
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Helper bee
- Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens
Have you looked at 3-stone rings? I have a stepcut in 3 stones, and it does give more finger coverage, but not as pricey as a massive stepcut. Plus it’s a little more unique.
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
Ashleypeter2015: I’m not sure, but the moissanite I’ve seen on here and IRL have been amazing!
Post # 14
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Newbee
My Amora Gem H&A is a G and it shows the slightest bit of warmth in certain lighting, but otherwise is rather colorless face up. If I cared about colorlessness, I could have easily chosed D/E/F. I don’t know what my Forever Brilliant H&A moissanite would be graded, but its rather warm in comparison. I had initial concerns I wouldn’t be able tell them apart when mixed up, but the color and cut are different enough. The H&A moissanite looks fine though on its own and cut wise matched my mom’s diamond earring better.
If you wanted the Amora in the asscher cut, I highly recommend the waitlist even though there are no immediate plans for BTD to make it for the time being unless the rough is right for it. Probably by the time they make it, I imagine they will be able to ship it to you directly, otherwiseyou can use Postalps like others.
The Asha Asscher was discontinued so you would have to hunt around diamondbistro.com or ebay or the web to find it. Ashas come in various other cuts though.
By the way, when discussing rings with your fiance, don’t use the words real or fake, it won’t help given the negative connotations. ‘Alternative’ could work in your favor though. Other things you could do is have a gemstone engagment ring and then a diamond wedding band.
Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
I can’t believe I’m actually typing this, but, in all honesty, “finger coverage” is very overrated.
Get the stunning asscher cut that you love in the specs you can afford — withOUT the halo you don’t want — and enjoy it! Have your FI purchase it from a jeweler that will allow you to upgrade your center stone in the future, if you’re ever in a position to do so and have the desire to trade it in on a new one. In the interim, choose a stunning wedding band.
I honestly don’t think you’re going to be at all happy if you choose a different cut stone OR a halo setting with round stones with an asscher. I have two very large baguettes flanking my round center stone, and step cuts just do NOT sparkle as much as round brilliants. I think you will not be pleased with the look of a halo with round stones surrounding an asscher. However, you could consider a halo with baguettes.
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